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This is hard to say lol

Posted by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:09 AM
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Here it goes!
When I was 13 yrs old, I was in a "relationship" with a 34 yr old man....
Even though we never had actual intercourse, I still feel horrible and gross about it. Only a handful of people know, including my husband. Supposedly he moved out of state when we broke up, but I have heard from a few people that he is back. He is a crazy man, and everytime I go to the store or something, I pray that if I run into him, we won't recognize each other, especially if I have my children with me.
It felt great getting this off of my chest!
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bmw29
by spitfire_bobbie on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:11 AM
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I would never call that a relationship. I would call that being taken advantage of by a damn sick fuck. If I were you I would love to run into him so I could light his balls on fire.
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Jinxed8
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:11 AM

Yikes !  a 13 year old with a 34 year old, this man is indeed crazy.  Hope for you that you don't run into him. Who wants to run into any ex's anyways ...

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:14 AM

Reminds me of that movie about the 13 year old who met a man online, and he tricked her into thinking he was in highschool, then turned out he was 30 something, and he talked her into sex and all that, then she fell inlove with him, and he moved on and she was screwed up from it!! It's sad that stuff like that really happens! :( Just remember you were young and ignorant, and you can move on from it....

Sweets27
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:15 AM
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I don't think that's a relationship. He took advantage of a child. I would tell him what a sick asshole he is if I were you.
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armywife0424
by Silver Member on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:15 AM
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 You shouldn't feel that way. You were a child and were taken advantage of by an adult. He's the one who should feel dirty and disgusting. Maybe you should see a counselor and get this off of your chest with a professional?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:16 AM
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Check the sex offender registry's, he might be on there! Wouldn't surprise me!

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:30 AM
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I understand. When I was 14, I had a bf who was 22. I also ran away and stayed with this other 22 year old who was my bff's bf, and this 35 year old man who looked like Howard Stern. (Eww.) They got us really drunk. My bff was already in a sexual relationship with her bf. I barely knew the 35 year old but he forced himself on me to kiss me, fingered me, and tried to have sex with me. I didn't want to and did not. I don't even have words for men like this. Disgusting, nauseating, & shameful don't even begin to say how I feel about them. More than likely if that "man" recognizes you, he won't even care, he'll probably be looking for another innocent 13 year old. Hopefully he'll get caught. And soon. Unless he's changed, which is unlikely. But hopefully he did and got some help so he doesn't do this to anymore young girls.
Manderkinz1989
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:30 AM
Thanks ladies. Dh also says that I was just young and it was the guys fault. I have thought of talking to someone about it. What happened with him threw me into a bad phase and led to a lot of regretful things. I haven't forgiven myself and I am always scared that my daughters will follow in my footsteps.
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L1558
by on Feb. 6, 2012 at 10:35 AM

He was SICK AS H*LL and you are not to blame, my dear. Don't feel shame about it.

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