Please please help me

[Anonymous]

Between DS not sleeping more than 2 hours at a time (if I'm lucky, for 7 months now), my joint pain and headaches, I am at my breaking point. I have 2 other little ones that need my attention. I finally brought DS down and handed him off to DH, where he is at now, the first time I have ever done that. I told him, "I'm  sorry, but I'm at my breaking point, I fear I might hurt him". Which is only half a lie. I would never hurt him, but I'm less sympathetic right now to his cries. I know the zantac is working, because he falls asleep easier now, and wakes up playing instead of crying. But DH gives me this big HUFF and sigh, like I'm this huge POS. I know I am. I cant handle it anymore. Its taking every fiber of my being not to put my fist through a wall right now. 

I mentioned to DHand my Doc not one week ago that I am at my breaking point, and both ignored me and didnt even respond. What do I do? DS' next appointment is march 1st, and I want to tell the pedi how I feel, but am afraid he will go overboard and call CPS. 

Tell me what to do....Please.....I'll do anything. Just tell me............I cant stop crying. 

I tried CIO last month, I'm not new to CIO, I did it with my other two kids, but its not working with this one. 

[DomoniqueWS]

Did you ask your gyno if you may have Postpartum Depression. It can last a while if untreated. 

[Queen_Bree]

You should hand him off more often. Explain to your DH that you need help. I know men can be insensitive but maybe if you say how you are feeling he can help. MAke sure you mention to your doc the way you are feeling. Also you can call 211 to get a hotline just to talk it out. it is anonymous and talking to a rational ininvolved person has a good way of helping. I wish you the best.

[karla85]

Definitely this. Good luck

Quoting Queen_Bree:

You should hand him off more often. Explain to your DH that you need help. I know men can be insensitive but maybe if you say how you are feeling he can help. MAke sure you mention to your doc the way you are feeling. Also you can call 211 to get a hotline just to talk it out. it is anonymous and talking to a rational ininvolved person has a good way of helping. I wish you the best.

[KeepJeep]

Why does your husband get huffy? It's his baby too. You should never feel sorry for handing your child to his father! You are both responsible for your children and it sounds like all the responsibility is on you right now. It's normal to feel like you do when you're not getting the support you need. I'm so sorry momma. Hang in there!

[Xlandria]

Tell your 'DH' to shape up and act like a FATHER. He should be pitching in and allowing you to get your rest or you might hurt "him". I had a hands off husband/father and it is no picnic, but I didn't have other little ones. Is there any family or close friends you can ask to help out? My son never slept all night til he was 3 yrs old, when he was a year old I had to go to work and started letting him sleep with us. I didn't like it but I needed my sleep. Wish I could help you out. My DH was and is a wonderful father to his 6 kids, wish he my kids father.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

We are military, so I am used to doing it on my own. Admitting that I cant is a huge blow to my ego. He is just so used to me handling everything. We just moved, so I have nobody. No family, no friends. I hate admitting that I need help. But I NEED help, and there is nobody here to help me. GOD please help me....

If you could hear my sobs, you woudl know how desperate I am......... PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[kathienpb]

Im so sorry. All I can give you is sympathy. Queen bee is right and dh should be more supportive. He wont realize how bad off you are right now if you don't tell him. Get some help and with dhs support it will hopefully not last long and you can be the strong independent mom you were before. Good luck!
ps everyone needs help sometimes. There's nothing wrong with that.