"MY Husband Would NEVER Cheat"
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Why do women say this? Statistics have shown that infidelity affects nearly HALF of all relationships. Many times, the spouse doesn't learn of the infidelity until years later, or after the death of the cheating spouse. It seems rather foolish and arrogant to insist one's spouse would NEVER cheat. I'm sure we all want to believe this, but believing something doesn't make it true.
The other woman doesn't need to prettier, smarter, thinner, younger, wealthier or more successful. She just has to be available. My sister is much better in every way compared to the woman her husband cheated on her with off and on for 3 years. My mom was much nicer and prettier than the women my dad cheated on her with. I was definitely a better deal than the woman my ex cheated on me with. But, they were clearly unhappy and took the easy route, just as many women do when they are unhappy in their marriages.
It is hard to feel sorry for someone who had insisted, over and over, "MY husband would NEVER cheat" when he ends up cheating. I'm telling you, your husband is not Jesus Christ, so stop fooling yourself. He can cheat. The question is whether or not he will, and the chance is about 50/50.
Women say this because they are the ones in the marriage, no one else is. And they trust their partner as surely as their partner likely trusts them. I do not think it is foolish or arrogant for me to say that I feel I know my husband well enough to state that no, he would never cheat on me. just like I would not ever cheat on him. Men are not dogs in heat. just because there is an available female near them does not turn them in to slobbering lust monsters. sheesh.
while i agree with everything you just said i want to point something out here .... your mother you and your sister all picked men that were unfaithful. there may be some sort of underlyingissue there. you should all look into this before you get involved with other relationships again
Statistically, it is 50/50. But there ARE ways to make your odds of a happy faithful marriage better, such as open communication and not falling into complacency.
But the people who just believe he never will even be tempted are the ones who seem to suffer the most. They lie to themselves, I think. Acknowledging that humans are fallible, that relationships take work, etc means realizing things CAN go wrong. If you fool yourself into thinking it just can't happen to you, you might fail to work as hard when you begin to grow apart.
I say DH won't cheat with confidence. Not b/c I think he is godly and immune, but b/c we work hard with each other when things start to go wrong here and there. We communicate well, even if that means writing a letter b/c it is hard to say some things. We make it a point to reconnect if we drift apart. But I also realize that if we ever stop what we have going, it could happen.
Happy Memorial Day.
