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Yes, yes you do.

Posted by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 12:59 PM
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I am so sick of seeing post from moms who say they don't judge. It's a big fat lie. Judging others, situations, and ourselves are things ALL humans do to survive. It's instinctive, natural, and normal. just because you pass judgement does not mean you have to act upon it. I judge each and every one you every time I read a post you write.

So to all you special people who claim to be non-judgemental, get the fuck over yourselves. We can see right through you!

/rant.
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NDADanceMom
by Platinum Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:04 PM

 My motto is if you dont judge you have no judgement.

sissyboogs
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:07 PM
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I think the ones who say they don't judge are only thinking of judging in a bad way-- "oh, she's overweight, so she must sit around eating all day"..."oh, she has 5 kids, 2 look mixed and the others look white, so she must be a slut".....

People tend to forget that thoughts such as "oh, she has 3 small kids and her hair wasn't done today, so she must be tired!" are also judgments. Or, "wow, she has a nice smile, she looks really nice"....Judgments can be nice things or even mundane, neutral things too. Things we don't even consciously think about. 

mitchiesgirl
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:08 PM
It's not my place to judge someone since I am not in a position where I need to... I would say a better terminology for me is that I do not look down on someone because of their lifestyle choices (unless they are abusive to children or animals,
etc.)... I think people just use the "judging" term too loosely as if they really forgot what it means :/
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KristiDLee23
by on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:17 PM
I like to think I dont but I know I do. Everyone does, some are just better at acceptance than others as well as how they express it. Its something I will have to work on continuously. The hateful stuff I see spewed on here sometimes I find really sad and disrespectful.
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couponluv72
by Sati on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:20 PM
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I will be one of the very first to stand up tall and proud and say , HELL YES I judge. YUP. People should just own it instead of trying to BS everyone

CabinMommyNH
by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 3:25 PM
Look up the definition of judgement and rethink what you just wrote.

Quoting mitchiesgirl:

It's not my place to judge someone since I am not in a position where I need to... I would say a better terminology for me is that I do not look down on someone because of their lifestyle choices (unless they are abusive to children or animals,

etc.)... I think people just use the "judging" term too loosely as if they really forgot what it means :/
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sfkdny
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 3:26 PM

not everyone is a judgmental bitch, sorry, that is just the way it is.  judge away, I chose to not be like that

CabinMommyNH
by Bronze Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 3:28 PM
I think we could be friends IRL just because you've got the balls to say it straight!

Quoting couponluv72:

I will be one of the very first to stand up tall and proud and say , HELL YES I judge. YUP. People should just own it instead of trying to BS everyone

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Shaken1976
by Silver Member on Feb. 13, 2012 at 3:29 PM

I try not to be judgemental.  Notice I said TRY.  But I will say it does happen.  If I see a woman in the store with a baby in a diaper only....My first thought is why doesn't she have the brains to put some clothes on that kid.  Then I think...well maybe the kid had a diaper explosion. Or if I see someone who is obese and stuffing their face....I think no wonder.  I do try though and usually try to give people the benefit of the doubt.

couponluv72
by Sati on Feb. 13, 2012 at 3:29 PM

would not wish that on anyone, I am a very difficult person to be around for any length of time. too intense i am told. LOL

Quoting CabinMommyNH:

I think we could be friends IRL just because you've got the balls to say it straight!

Quoting couponluv72:

I will be one of the very first to stand up tall and proud and say , HELL YES I judge. YUP. People should just own it instead of trying to BS everyone


My happiness is me, not you. Not only because you may be temporary, But also because you want me to be What I am not. I cannot be happy when i change Merely to satisfy your selfishness. Nor can I feel content when you Criticize me for not thinking your thoughts. Or for seeing like you do. You call me a rebel. And yet each time I have rejected your beliefs, You have rebelled against mine. I do not try ot mold your mind. I know you are trying hard enough , To be just you. And I cannot allow you to tell me what to be For I am concentrating on being me. You said that I was transparent, And easily forgotten. Why then did you try to use my lifetime, to prove to yourself who YOU are? -by Michelle from a leo buscaglia book

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