MY dh is working out of town. He was here for the weekend and left again on Sunday. This time when he was home we got along great, no arguments had a really nice night. SO when he left I really missed him, more than normal. He calls yesterday at 630 and says they are going to dinner with his boss he will call me later, i was really looking forward to talking to him, I only get to talk to him for about 5 or 10 minutes, usually he is tired and wants to go to bed at 930, they get up at 530 and by the time they get breakfast and start it is 7 and they work 12 hours and get back to the room get showered go eat, he is calling about 9 and ready for bed, sometimes falling asleep while he is talking, I understand, he is tired working hard and it is taking alot out of him. I really do understand. Well back to the reason I was upset. So he calls at 630 and says they are going to Lonestar for dinner he will call me after, I said ok that will be good cause I will have the kids in bed and it will be quiet and we can talk for a few minutes. I was excited. Well 930 comes and goes and no phone call, 10 comes and no phone call, so I text him and say I guess I am not going to get to talk to you tonight. Good night. He sends me back a text, I am sorry we had a really hard day and are having a few beers. So I got upset and said any other night you are ready for bed by 930 and because you had a hard day you need to go relax and have a few beers and i dont get to talk to you. probably childish but, so then i said what about when I have a bad day when do I get to unwind and relax, i dont. I have never just gone out. We go out every 6 months for our birthdays and our anniversary. Other than that I usually am with my kids, no breaks. So it upset me. HE said I am sorry I will give you all the time in the world. Really no you wont. You will call talk to me for 10 minutes and say you are tired and need to go to bed, then when you get home on Friday you will walk in sit and relax and fall asleep on the couch and I will be by myself again. And then you will get mad at me when I fall asleep early because the kids get me up at 6 am every day. So I was soo upset I tossed and turned all night and was up 2 and 3 and 5. And him not being here for Valentines Day makes it worst, I know it is just another day but the first one we have been apart for 10 years. Thanks for listening, vent and long and I am sorry.
Quoting owl0210:
I'd be upset that he didn't pick up the phone and call. If he has time to text he can call. Happy V Day!
Exactly, men dont do shit like that for nothing. U call and no answer then u text and he replys. Honey, im so sorry, hes and ass. Im sorry for being so blunt, I used to go through the same thing with my SO and my brother told me once that if he is at a chixk house he can text one and be sitting right next to another. Not tryna discourage u but I would think that if my SO is away from me like that then he will miss me and wanna talk to me more. Even if he is tired. And comin home just to lay on the couch and not wanna talk or spend time with u? Ask me how mad I would be?! Been there and I flip on him everytime and he always gets mad. Men just dont have any feelings and considerations for the ones that love them. Im here if u wanna talk some more. Im so sorry. Happy valentines day.
That is exactly what I was thinking....and I have been up all night too, not for the same reason though.
Quoting Kiramommy08:Quoting owl0210:
I'd be upset that he didn't pick up the phone and call. If he has time to text he can call. Happy V Day!
Exactly, men dont do shit like that for nothing. U call and no answer then u text and he replys. Honey, im so sorry, hes and ass. Im sorry for being so blunt, I used to go through the same thing with my SO and my brother told me once that if he is at a chixk house he can text one and be sitting right next to another. Not tryna discourage u but I would think that if my SO is away from me like that then he will miss me and wanna talk to me more. Even if he is tired. And comin home just to lay on the couch and not wanna talk or spend time with u? Ask me how mad I would be?! Been there and I flip on him everytime and he always gets mad. Men just dont have any feelings and considerations for the ones that love them. Im here if u wanna talk some more. Im so sorry. Happy valentines day.
Its not that he doesnt want to talk to me or spend time with me. I know my husband would never cheat. I said that when he comes home on Friday after working til noon he will drive the 7 hours and be tired. He will fall asleep on the couch. It is just a vent. not for someone to make me think that my husband is cheating. He does want to spend time with me, this past weekend we spent the entire time together with the kids. He is not at some chix house they were at lonestar eating dinner and having some drinks. yes maybe i got more upset than i should have but i know my husband. Thanks for making my day worst.
Quoting DomoniqueWS:
That is exactly what I was thinking....and I have been up all night too, not for the same reason though.
Quoting Kiramommy08:
Quoting owl0210:
I'd be upset that he didn't pick up the phone and call. If he has time to text he can call. Happy V Day!
Exactly, men dont do shit like that for nothing. U call and no answer then u text and he replys. Honey, im so sorry, hes and ass. Im sorry for being so blunt, I used to go through the same thing with my SO and my brother told me once that if he is at a chixk house he can text one and be sitting right next to another. Not tryna discourage u but I would think that if my SO is away from me like that then he will miss me and wanna talk to me more. Even if he is tired. And comin home just to lay on the couch and not wanna talk or spend time with u? Ask me how mad I would be?! Been there and I flip on him everytime and he always gets mad. Men just dont have any feelings and considerations for the ones that love them. Im here if u wanna talk some more. Im so sorry. Happy valentines day.
I never said i called, i said i texted, i knew he was at dinner. So I texted him, and i know that dinner with the boss it is always a few hours. I was just upset i missed him and didnt get to talk to him it was a vent. My husband would never go to another woman.
Quoting Kiramommy08:
Quoting owl0210:
I'd be upset that he didn't pick up the phone and call. If he has time to text he can call. Happy V Day!
Exactly, men dont do shit like that for nothing. U call and no answer then u text and he replys. Honey, im so sorry, hes and ass. Im sorry for being so blunt, I used to go through the same thing with my SO and my brother told me once that if he is at a chixk house he can text one and be sitting right next to another. Not tryna discourage u but I would think that if my SO is away from me like that then he will miss me and wanna talk to me more. Even if he is tired. And comin home just to lay on the couch and not wanna talk or spend time with u? Ask me how mad I would be?! Been there and I flip on him everytime and he always gets mad. Men just dont have any feelings and considerations for the ones that love them. Im here if u wanna talk some more. Im so sorry. Happy valentines day.
men...we cant live with them or without them....remember venus and mars??? it always amazed me that my husband wound jump at another women request.....and my requests remained on the table....years ago, a neighbor came over to se if i had any mushroom, i said, nope sorry, but my husband said to her, if you want i will go to the store for you and get some!!!! now do u think he would have done that for me??? @@@@ no......we wear our hurts, and they think, big deal.....well it is to us, but then
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- drdevault
on Feb. 14, 2012 at 7:25 AM