My dh won't stop over feeding our 8 month old
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I just fed him two hours ago. A 7 oz. bottle and 1/2 jar of sweet potatoes. Well, I was in the shower and I came down and he was drinking from a bottle again. Dh said he was fussy, so he gave him another bottle. An 8 oz. bottle! And just two hours ago I fed him. I told dh AGAIN that you can't feed him like that. Just because he was being fussy, doesn't necessarily mean he is hungry. This has happened several times before. I'm afraid he will get used to eating like this. I work all night and sleep most of the day. During the day dh takes care of our son. He just tells me to stop nagging him. I told him that was wasn't listening to me and he just rolls his eyes. It doesn't matter what I tell him, he won't listen to me! Ugh!
Also, I've been writing down on a white board how ds ate today, and I ask dh to update it when I'm away so we both know how much he ate and when. Now I think dh lies to me about how much he feeds him. It's like he doesn't want to deal with him, so he shuts him up with a bottle.
That's a good idea, but he doesn't have another appointment until he is 1 year.
Quoting Kaybean:
I suggest having your DH go to your son's next Dr appointment and bringing it up so the Dr himself/herself can tell your DH that its not okay, and explain that it can lead to obesity.
Does your son throw up? Does he drink all of the milk?
Quoting Kaybean:
I suggest having your DH go to your son's next Dr appointment and bringing it up so the Dr himself/herself can tell your DH that its not okay, and explain that it can lead to obesity.
this or when you're home let your husband do the feeding. this way you can see for sure if he's feeding him every 2 hours when he's in charge of it. i'm not sure what you can do to stop it though. babies i used to feed wouldn't eat if they weren't hungry just push the nipple around. i have seen some who will eat when a bottle is shoved in their mouth. who's to say if it's out of hunger. your DH probably thinks if he didn't want it or wasn't hungry he wouldn't eat.
Show your husband some things from online about how much a baby his age should be eating. If he looks it up himself and does the research, maybe he will be more apt to understand and take the advice.
Guys are different, they see a problem (like a baby crying) and they immediately want to fix it. And they go for the first thing they think of (and that has worked in the past) and go with it. He knows that a bottle makes him stop crying and so that's how he does it. I don't think it's because he doesn't want to deal with him - he's just trying to "fix a problem".
Quoting Anonymous:That's a good idea, but he doesn't have another appointment until he is 1 year.
Quoting Kaybean:
I suggest having your DH go to your son's next Dr appointment and bringing it up so the Dr himself/herself can tell your DH that its not okay, and explain that it can lead to obesity.
babies, kids and adults eat TONS of food when they are going through a growth spurt. Do you think it's a growth spurt?
No, he doesn't throw up. He rarely even spits up. He's always he had good appetite. And he finished 1/2 of that 8 oz bottle, and then just knocked it away. I still feel like that's too much =( I don't want him to want to eat for comfort. I feel like he should know the difference between eating, because he;s hungry, then eating because he's sad/upset/mad/ect.
I am going to look up some things online for dh. I never really followed any guildlines. I just got him into routine and kind of went by how much my dd eat at his age.
Quoting Elyce225:
Does your son throw up? Does he drink all of the milk?
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