She Makes Me So Mad I Could Scream

[Anonymous]

my daughter is such a brate.  i got divorsed when she was a baby and i got lots of help from her gramma but she is a brate.  she expects every thing to be handed to her on a silver plater.  just today she gots a shit load of valentines presents from gramma and asked for more.  i try to keep nonsence stuff to a minimum but she's always wanting more.  what do i do?

[Anonymous]

First learn to spell

[kendalelorraine]

 how old is she? some kids don't comprehend money and all that. you need to sit her down and explain that you don't get everything in life. maybe ask grandma not to spoil her so much either so she won't be expecting it.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

She's 6.5 and Gramma's only grandchild. Obviously, her birthday's fast approaching.  If I talked to Gramma, she wouldn't listen.

 

[Bncholbert]

Did you get anything for vday??? It almost sounds like youre bitter that your own daughter got "a shitload".

[ceashell429]

Only you can change it. Your the parent. Stop complaining and be the adult.

When my kids got new toys. I made them donate their old toys to kids less fortunate. You have to teach children humbleness.

[aprilsalcro]

Spell check

[hailiesmom515]

From what I see its a normal kid thing, my dd is almost five, I make sure she acts appreciative of everything, if she doesn't, or she acts like a brat she is punished and has privileges taken away. All of that and sometimes when I get her a gift she still asks what else did I get her.
Just punish her every single time, be consistent and it will pay off.

[PlineyJane]

 If she is spoiled its your fault. Sorry doesn't matter what grandma gets her, it still boils down to you and how you raised her. Did she even say ty to all those that got her things? Did you get her anything? Maybe thats what she was upset about, that her mom didn't get her anything?

If grandma spoils her to much, it is your right as her mom to step in and make it stop. You are after all the mother of this child, and you can raise her how you want. If you raised her ungrateful, then it is nothing but your own fault. As far as her being a brat, well I would think that you are the Brat! You were to selfish to raise her to care that others gave her something and now you want to fault gma. Nah, its all on you!

[jgtrz143]

I would take everything away.  My son is 2 (almost 3) and we have taught him that good behavior is rewarded and bad behavior is not tolerated.  Every time he misbehaves he loses a toy or a privilege.  If at 2 he can grasp that concept your 6 year old can as well.  It's not easy and he still loses his f@cken mind sometimes and throws a tantrum but consequences are the same.  

Have her earn everything back.  Maybe you should talk to your mom about what's going on, although i am sure she knows.  Ask her to back you up and stop giving her gifts until she earns them or if she wont do that have her at least give you the gifts.  That way your daughters has incentives and goals to work toward.  Sorry you are having a hard time.  Hope this helps

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

We're not all perfect spellers like you.  Jeez!  Give her a break.

Quoting Anonymous:

First learn to spell