My mom and I were close but never really could get a long for an extended period of time. I always took the heat for my little sister and she always took her issues out on me.
She got a boyfriend and it seemed like every fight they had would trickle on to me and I would get the brunt of her drama/anger started around 12, prior to then she was pretty wacko toward me already.
Well I moveout right before I turn 16. By that time I had been working, going to high school, going to college, I remember I had to pay for my own food, clothes, bus pass, dental, medical co-pays, etc. She did not want to take care of me. I had my first job at 14 and thats when it all started
So lets just say I'm used to being shunned and put second to her needs, my sisters needs, or her boyfriends needs.
Well now my sister is 14 and is feeling it. She is starting to get the treatment I had. My mom still does financialy support her but she often put her bf ahead of my sis.
I just got off the phone with my sis and she was crying because she was so upset, she rarely cries. She even said she never had to deal with this because I would always take the heat instead but now that its just her she gets it all.
don't know exactly what todo. she knows she is welcome to come over whenever.
***Also, my mom is getting a new house and its sparking a lot of issues. My mom is giving her bf, who does not help at all, and one of his kids, who is never there, each a room and my sis has to take whatever room they don't want. Its just setting abd mood because my sis should be a priority
It doesn't sound as if your mother is able to see where she is at fault. So until she reaches that point, I don't see that talking to her will do any good. I would just suggest trying to get tour sister out of there before your mother can do anymore damage to her.
Best of luck momma, sounds like you both need a lot if it.
Quoting ReidsNana:
Oh boy, that is a really tough situation. Seems like your mom has a lot of issues. Is it possible for you to have your sister come live with you? Are you able to get custody of her? I have room for her to live with me but my mom won't let that happen if I am the agressor in it. I have to wait for my sister to be bold enough to want to say it and leave. I mean when I left i had a cop escort me out, thats how ballsy you have to be. I don't think my sis is able to just yet.
It doesn't sound as if your mother is able to see where she is at fault. So until she reaches that point, I don't see that talking to her will do any good. I would just suggest trying to get tour sister out of there before your mother can do anymore damage to her.
Best of luck momma, sounds like you both need a lot if it. Thank You, We do need it, its a hard situation to be in.
Quoting murphysam1:
Wow. That sounds alot like what I went through with my mom. The bf or spouce was more important. Is it possible that she might have a mental health issue? VERY POSSIBLE, She will never admit it to me though...... I wonder what it could be? Be there for your sister and if need be seek guardien ship.
That's tough, it's very unfortunate that your mother is like that. Maybe your sister should live with you?
Quoting Anonymous:
You don't have one other than to lend a shoulder. It could just make things worse for your sister. I am sure you turned out fine, your sister will too. Responsibility never killed anyone I turned out fine because my whole childhood sucked, my sis and I have different lives that were lived. I was strong because I had the life I had prior to teen years, my sister may very well break, just the truth.
Quoting GomezMami2908:That's tough, it's very unfortunate that your mother is like that. Maybe your sister should live with you? I have a feeling it'll happen eventually. Hopefully sooner than later. It'll just be hard because I am a student and we work and what not so I really just want to wake my mom up.
Happy Memorial Day.
- DomoniqueWS
on Feb. 15, 2012 at 1:19 AM