"DH said he gave up on most black women because they are too ghetto and never have their shit together. Which I can agree with after meeting the ones he use to talk to."
Now I'm a black woman and this made me think about a debate I had with my DH's best friend. He pretty much said the same thing, including "black women have too much drama with them and are mostly bitter with baggage". We argued for a long time about this. I just don't get why so many people feel this way. Is it because where people live, that they only come across a certain type of black woman or what because I think that is too broad of a statement.
I wanted to add that he is currently dating outside of his race and he has been dealing with all kinds of craziness form this girl. So I would think that his view if women would change, but nope most black women have issues, but he can say that it's just this chick being crazy and not all or most women of that race. Soo one sided.
I won't answer the poll at all, because my correct answer is not there. I, personally, do not have the life experience to make such a sweeping generalization. I grew up in the country where there were few black people. I never had any black friends growing up. I don't know anything about them or the culture, so therefore it's not my place to say my feelings on the matter one way or the other.
FYI, before I'm bashed, I don't not have black friends by choice, just by experience. I'd be friends with whomever, because I base my friendships off of respect, personality, and trust. I don't care if someone is black, yellow, green, blue or purple...if they're my friend, they're my friend. I simply have not ever met a black person and become friends with them. /shrug
Hi,
I am black and grew up in a multicultural middle class background.
To most black men I act to white...lol...
Girl whether you are ghetto or not you cant win.
All you can do is find a good man that loves you for who you are.
~Tia
Quoting ViridianSoul:I won't answer the poll at all, because my correct answer is not there. I, personally, do not have the life experience to make such a sweeping generalization. I grew up in the country where there were few black people. I never had any black friends growing up. I don't know anything about them or the culture, so therefore it's not my place to say my feelings on the matter one way or the other.
FYI, before I'm bashed, I don't not have black friends by choice, just by experience. I'd be friends with whomever, because I base my friendships off of respect, personality, and trust. I don't care if someone is black, yellow, green, blue or purple...if they're my friend, they're my friend. I simply have not ever met a black person and become friends with them. /shrug
Where did you grow up? I'm black can we be friends, and no I'm not bashing you. Nice to meet you.
Quoting MomTiara19:Hi,
I am black and grew up in a multicultural middle class background.
To most black men I act to white...lol...
Girl whether you are ghetto or not you cant win.
All you can do is find a good man that loves you for who you are.
~Tia
Same here, I act to white according to some black men.
There is no written rule that black, white, yellow etc people are supposed to act a certain way. But yet society insists on placing people under that color card....
And it's sad..., we are sooo much more than a color, and letting ourselves be defined as such places limits on who we are and what we can be.
Quoting Anonymous:Quoting ViridianSoul:I won't answer the poll at all, because my correct answer is not there. I, personally, do not have the life experience to make such a sweeping generalization. I grew up in the country where there were few black people. I never had any black friends growing up. I don't know anything about them or the culture, so therefore it's not my place to say my feelings on the matter one way or the other.
FYI, before I'm bashed, I don't not have black friends by choice, just by experience. I'd be friends with whomever, because I base my friendships off of respect, personality, and trust. I don't care if someone is black, yellow, green, blue or purple...if they're my friend, they're my friend. I simply have not ever met a black person and become friends with them. /shrug
Where did you grow up? I'm black can we be friends, and no I'm not bashing you. Nice to meet you.
Thank you! I grew up in rural northeastern Connecticut. We had literally ONE black family in my entire town, no kids of my age; they were all younger. Where I grew up was simply just not...diverse at all. 90% of the population was white, from families that had lived in the same town for generations. The rest were asian decended.
Now I live in Florida where there's a lot more diversity, but I'm too damn poor to get out and meet anyone! lol
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