I'm a mom who only has her son on weekends...
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I miss him everyday. I was forced by CPS to appoint a guardian for him 2 years ago for being residentially unstable. I have had to do drug screens, psych evals, and parenting classes, and all kinds of things to get him back. I am almost done and I'm terminating the guardianship this summer.
Quoting danijean:
Why? Do you miss him? What led to this?
No question, but I wanted to say good for you for doing what you had to so you can get him back full time. Keep it up!
I am not sure what this means. There are people in **homeless shelters** who don't lose their kids.
When I volunteered as a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA), we were trained that just because a living situation is not stable (e.g. couch surfing, shelters, hotels, etc.), it is not a reason for taking kids. Hell me and my partner had one family who lived in almost a shack with no utilities as our first case and that was not, by itself, enough to take kids out of the home. Were there any other factors?
Quoting Anonymous:I miss him everyday. I was forced by CPS to appoint a guardian for him 2 years ago for being residentially unstable. I have had to do drug screens, psych evals, and parenting classes, and all kinds of things to get him back. I am almost done and I'm terminating the guardianship this summer.
Quoting danijean:
Why? Do you miss him? What led to this?
I had been reported for false allegations previous to that and they didn't take my son because they found them to be false but even still by the time they got the last report of me moving too much, they already had 2 reports against me so they removed my son from my home. The one thing I wish people understood is that if you are trying to get custody of a child, calling CPS doesn't help that. All it does is put the kids in situation like my poor son who has been shifted and moved around more now than he ever had been with me and most end up in the system because it's so hard to get the kids back. All of this would have been avoided if the people who wanted him would have just taken it to friend of the court, because the people who wanted him didn't get him and they never see him because of what the situation is. When you're a 19 year-old single mom with just enough for you and your child, you don't have extra money or resources to fight the system, so you fall victim and you're just another case of a situation that was blown way out of proportion.
My lawyer and I are working on a case to sue the branch of CPS that did this.. that's how wrongly the procedure was done.
Quoting KME445:I am not sure what this means. There are people in **homeless shelters** who don't lose their kids.
When I volunteered as a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA), we were trained that just because a living situation is not stable (e.g. couch surfing, shelters, hotels, etc.), it is not a reason for taking kids. Hell me and my partner had one family who lived in almost a shack with no utilities as our first case and that was not, by itself, enough to take kids out of the home. Were there any other factors?
Quoting Anonymous:I miss him everyday. I was forced by CPS to appoint a guardian for him 2 years ago for being residentially unstable. I have had to do drug screens, psych evals, and parenting classes, and all kinds of things to get him back. I am almost done and I'm terminating the guardianship this summer.
Quoting danijean:
Why? Do you miss him? What led to this?
Quoting wrensong:No question, but I wanted to say good for you for doing what you had to so you can get him back full time. Keep it up!
Are you in MI? I saw the 'friend of the court' and it took me almost 3 years to get my niece out of foster care there..it was a hot mess..and there was never any reason for the delay (because I live in a different state, hell she lived in another state, MI seized her when she was there for 3 days!)
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