i want out

[Anonymous]

writing this mostly to vent. think whatever about what i say, but i'd appreciate it if no one wrote anything negative. this isn't something easy. 

i've been married a year. 

my hubby and i have been arguing since a couple weeks before we got married. it didn't help that i was pregnant and hormonal and most guys don't know how to handle that. well during this year of marriage, at least once a month he's told me he's done. a couple months ago he even took my ring back from me. i have it now, but after looking back at everything's that has happened, i no longer want to try anymore. i used to be the one who would say "everything's okay" and "we can do this" but now i'm at an all time low. i know it takes two. i'm not blaming him for anything and as outsiders y'all only know what i'm typing, which isn't much. let's just say he has a way of making me feel worthless. i'm 23 with a beautiful 6 month old babygirl. i'm done. i want out. easier said than done.

[Anonymous]

I feel your pain!!!  Def easier said then done but you gotta do it... you are young and have a lot of life to live... dont waste too much time on something you know is not worth saving...

[Anonymous]

I feel your pain.  I'm in the same situation as you are and I have been with him for 10 years now.  I have 2 beautiful children and really question whether or not I even love him anymore.  Sorry that you are going through this, but get out now before 10 years of your life is gone that you can't get back!

[Firenygirl180]

i'm trying to figure these kind of things out too. my boyfriend and i were not together when i got pregnant and for the first few months that we lived together i would always tell him that we weren't in a relationship. our son is 7.5 months old and we are currently engaged but i told him a month ago that i'm not in love with him anymore. i feel like i'm doing this becase it's what you do whn youhave a baby.
my biggest fear about leaving is splitting up holidays. i want to see my son on his birthday every year.
it is so hard, but if you feel that you can't be withhimthen take some time off. stay with a friend or family for a littlewhile and see f anything changes

[supermom.sv]

I am so sorry mama. Do you love him? Do you think he loves you back? If the answer is Yes & Yes it is worth trying to solve the issue than go away from it.

You DD will benefit from it and try counseling (I know everyone advices the same) but Try communicating, Go out on dates once a week and see for 2 or 3 months before calling it quits.

Hugs <3

[Michelleb05]

That's exactly how I feel as well.  I don't want to put my kids through it.  Both of them love their dad very much and he has another child from a previous relationship who he never gets to see and I don't want to put him through that as well, but I feel guilty for staying because I just am not happy!

[proudmamaofdd]

Im sorry hun, I know how you feel 100% but people always say the first year is the hardest, maybe some counseling will help?

[Anonymous]

Sorry Momma. Do your best to leave now before the situation gets worse.

[2love]

I felt the same way two weeks into my marriage bur stayed 3 years for the kids. I left 3 yrs ago and couldnt be happier.

[erika9009]

I'm not sure you will try this, but it's something my mom told me on my wedding day.

Don't be his biggest critic, be his biggest cheerleader.

In all our busy lives, it's easy to point out all the wrong things our husbands do, not do, or say.  

Listen to yourself talk to him.  Then imagine him saying something like that to you.  Do you feel defensive all of a sudden.  Hummmmmmmm

Find the good things in him, he does, and says.  It will be weird at first, but just think about it.  Soon, say it.  Just short little things.  Like he washes the car, say, "nice" and let it go.  DON'T point out that little spot on the wheel that he missed.  So, you get the idea

[Anonymous]

There with you girl... I have nearly 9 years in.. And I feel so trapped! :(