Have you ever been scared almost to death? I am! - May be preg. And this is NOT GOOD.
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So... I am about to call my dh. I need him to bring me home a home preg. test so I can take it tonight.
For the past 5 months I have been waiting for Department of Social and Health services to fix a mistake they made. I am supposed to have "Free Family Planning and contraceptive help". Besides children's medical, this is the only other thing we qualify for. Well, I have the card, etc, saying it is current and I have it. But there was an issue in the computer, and when the clinic tried to put the card through, saying I was getting the essure put in, in 2 weeks, the thing came back as I don't have it. So I went over to the health services office. They were like OOPS our bad. Here take these condoms for now we will have this fixed asap. Been 5 months. And it isn't fixed yet. I keep calling they keep saying we r working on that we promise! Come back for more condoms for now. So dh and I have had sex sparingly and always used the condoms. I have also been tracking my period. I got my period the last time on January 5th. Now it is Feb. 15th. No period.
My husband and our three kids are hanging on by threads. A 9 yr old son who is depressed and is now in counseling because he is having a hard time dealing with two little brothers, one with def. autism, the other who MAY have it or MAY just be following the example of his other brother, we don't know yet what the youngest is going through, either he has issues or he is just mimicing behavior. Our oldest did just get chosen literally yesterday to be a little brother and now has a big sister to do things with so yes, that should help somewhat. Which is good. She seems wonderful so glad he got picked, and hoping it will get better for our son. My son got in because of "special circumstances" daddy IS of course in his life and married to me, etc, but they do take a few kids as a spec. circumstances case, and he got in. YAY! But life is still so difficult for our oldest. And he gets bullied. Like a lot of the time. Because his brother and him are in the same school, and his brother says hi to him, and some of these kids will upset both children by calling his brother retard, etc... My oldest always stands up for his brother, he loves him to pieces, and than gets picked on. One of these little SH!ts ripped my son's backpack the other day and punched him in the face and he got a bloody nose.
Than there is my middle who has autism, most likely aspergers and is in the process of getting diagnosed. He takes up most of my energy and time and patience. He gets sent home all the time, due to problems at school or on the bus. He just had his IEP changed, etc. But he is still having such a hard time. He cannot work through his issues like you or I can. He gets upset, very upset, by small things.
My youngest has some of the same issues and takes up every bit of strength I have left. It is SOOOOO hard.
I told my dh if I am pregnant right now, we aren't having it period. He was like are you serious? I was like, you think we could handle another child?! He was like I dont know. Yeah, I do, we could NOT handle another child. We would have had my dh snipped by now. But we just recentally found out about middle child's autism, and youngest may have it, that happened six months ago that our oldest was finally diagnosed, and we were surprised that she was like your youngest NEEDS to be tested, too. And we just haven't had the money to get my dh snipped or me done, and I was going to do the essure. I think it sounds really good to me, I have heard good things from friends/family about the essure. My best friend forever, has it and loves it. My aunt is a gynecologist and she was like the essure is GREAT and has done the procedure on many patients and no problems.
Anyway, I am so hoping I am not pregnant. My periods have been sort of erratic since I got my period at the age of 16. But they have been normal and on schedule for the past 2 yrs. And now I am late. So scared. I will do an abortion if I am preg cause I can see no other way out. I would NEVER do adoption. I have like 4 friends and 3 family members who went that route and all of them regret it and wish they had done abortion or kept the baby themselves. And this sucks too cause it could be the girl I always wanted, I have all boys no little girls, so no pretty pink outfits and dresses for me. :(
But I gotta do what I gotta do, and right now priorities are my boys and what their needs are. They could never handle it. I don't even believe I could handle it.
Good luck Mama! If you are preggo you do what's best for your family.
I'm sorry!
Here's my story: My DH was diagnosed with cancer right before I had DS. My DD has severe medical issues too. So, to a certain extent I feel your pain. Maybe you're just really stressed out. Happens to me all the time. DH and I RARELY if ever have sex because we simply can't right now.
I hope it works out for you.
this is why i think every us citizen should be able to get free permanent birth control.
GL i hope its just a VERY wacky cycle for you.
Could you have bought the birth control, yourself? I don't have any advice to give you but I'm sorry to hear this, I hope everything works out for the best..
Wow. That is definitely a lot your family has to deal with. I am sorry you are in this situation. And I am really sorry that kids can be such little jerks! That makes me really sad that your DS gets bullied for standing up for his brother that has a disability. Very sad! :(
I really really dont agree with abortion unless it is a life threatening choice or rape. But its your body. Just think of all the ppl out there that desperately want a child! And if you did that, you would also be taken care of financially through your pregnancy so it wouldnt be as bad. But maybe sit and talk with DH and all the boys and see what they think. Maybe your family is stronger than you realize and together you can raise another baby.
Hope your not PG though for your sake!! GL
Time to send hubby in for a Vasectomy!!!!! Why are YOU supposed to do something? He can take his part too. It's cheaper, and easy for aman to be snipped nowadays... they don't even need a scalpel anymore.
And it is a lot cheaper than tubals. Or kids.
Find some funding for HIM to go get fixed.
He has no insurance, but the family planning will fully cover me, once they fix it in the comp. I know what you are saying but I heard the essure is great, even from my aunt who is a gynecologist.
Quoting Anonymous:
Time to send hubby in for a Vasectomy!!!!! Why are YOU supposed to do something? He can take his part too. It's cheaper, and easy for aman to be snipped nowadays... they don't even need a scalpel anymore.
And it is a lot cheaper than tubals. Or kids.
Find some funding for HIM to go get fixed.
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