moms are lame?

[Anonymous]

Do you feel like being a mother makes you less interesting or takes away from the person you were before you had kids?? I got an email from an old friend and it started off like this; "you're having another kid? I don't know why you would do that to yourself, you were one of the coolest chicks I've ever known." It basically went on to say that it makes him sad that I've wasted my life and being married with kids makes me much less interesting. I'm 34, my priorities are different. But in most ways I'm still the same person. I used to be a singer in a psych-rock band and the friend I'm talking about was our drummer and my best friend for over 15 years,, but I fell in love and started a beautiful family. I didn't know growing up brought your coolness factor down. I don't know, he is 40, unmarried, no kids and is still vying to be some rock n roll god. I think in the long run, I will be more fulfilled in life with what I have and have much more to be proud of and show for it. But I have to admit, my feelings are a bit hurt.

[Mamie_85]

I've had old friends say similar things. But, they were all single men without children, so their opinions don't count :)

[nikki32230]

I think being 40 and still hoping your band "makes it big bro" is pretty lame. At a certain age it starts to look kinda slimy.... Yuck!

[SexyCaitlin]

I don't think so. My aunt is a mom to 3 and she gets hit on everywhere she goes. 2 random.guys wanted to marry her. She was like wth?

[ebbierowe]

I think it is more lame to be 40 and not be the rock and roll god you have been trying to be all theses years....

the fact is kids change how you are cool but you can still be cool...there is nothing lame about having a family...

[LadyStork]

 Sounds like he's jealous!!!! :)

[rockinmomto2]

Eh. I'm still the same person I was before kids...cooler I think, actually. I feel more comfortable being myself now. :-)

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting nikki32230:

I think being 40 and still hoping your band "makes it big bro" is pretty lame. At a certain age it starts to look kinda slimy.... Yuck!

Even though I really don't want to, I'm going to have to go out on a limb and defend him. He's definitely not a "bro" saying type of guy and his career has been pretty successful as far as the genre of music he plays. He did a European tour, playing with a band called The Cramps and his present band is doing very well too. I'm very proud of him, but I still think I've got a better thing goin' on. I'd rather have love and a family then an impressive musical resume. Maybe I just wasn't as driven or obssessed with being in a band.

[momof52011]

Being a mom was the making of me. I'm still the same person as I was before but I'm more caring, more practical, I love people more and I find empathy much easier. It has just developed my life, not hindered it.

[ms_davis]

i had my daughter at 19, so i've been a mother my entire adult life. i'm actually a lot more confident and outgoing now than i was when i was in high school. sounds like he doesn't have his life together, and has his own regrets. don't let him get you down.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting momof52011:

Being a mom was the making of me. I'm still the same person as I was before but I'm more caring, more practical, I love people more and I find empathy much easier. It has just developed my life, not hindered it.

That's how I feel too. I think I would have an emptiness if I didn't have my babies. It would be a sad life without them. Nothing compares to the love you have for your children.