DH goes to work at 4:30 am comes home at 7 for maybe 45 minutes... if he's lucky. Than goes back into work and get 1 hour lunch break (about 1/2 the time, the other half he doesn't get a lunch break) gets home around 5 and spend about an hour at home than has to go to the gym for 2-3 hours to do extra PT with 2 of his joe's. By the time he gets home the kids are in bed already, and he jumps in the shower and is in bed by 10 at the latest. He works 5-7 days a week and goes to the gym 6 days and a track the other day of the week.
It SUCKS! The kids hardly see him, I hardly see him. Yes I know it could be worse, he could be deployed, we just got through a deployment a few months ago. And yes I know I married him knowing he was military, but I had no idea they worked THIS much and regardless I'm not going to not marry the guy I love because of his job. I'm just so tired, if I need to leave and it's cold I have an hour to do it between the time he gets home and goes to the gym, meaning we don't eat dinner together, and the nearest store is 20 minutes away without traffic, but when he gets home there's always traffic so it takes 35 minutes to get there so I usually have to go after he gets out of the shower.... He's always tired, which is understandable so everything in the house has to be done by me, cleaning, kids, dogs, etc. Plus doing 6-8 hours of school work a day. I'm tired I just want a little break, but I know he's even more tired than I am so I don't ask him for one.
This is just a vent I'll probably get bashed but I don't care anymore. This has been going on for almost 5 months and I've never vented before about it, today was just an extremely rough day.
Thanks :/
It's upset me before tonight but today was just the damn breaking point, the kids have both when whining and crying ALL day and want absolutely nothing, the dogs have been bothering each other, the youngest dog had an accident in the house, I forgot to get dinner started on time, that's the other thing I hate dinner HAS to be finished by a certain time of DH doesn't get to eat until 8 or 9 pm which means some days he goes from 7:30 am until than without a meal.
Quoting diamondsetter:
Hang in there :)
No. He HAS to eat. He HAS to breathe. He wants to go to the gym. You can buy work out gear for the house and get a good work out in the house. He will get an hour a day extra with you.
Quoting Anonymous:
He can't, he HAS to go to the gym.
Quoting NDADanceMom:
Have him work out at home.
Sorry, hit enter on accident, he has to be at the gym because there's 2 guys he's doing an extra PT with because they can't pass PT tests, so he has to be there to work out with them and "monitor" them, and sometimes (like tonight) one of the high ups comes in to see what types of training DH is doing with them and everything. Plus we have no room for DH to work out let alone 2 additional guys
Quoting NDADanceMom:Have him work out at home.
Quoting Anonymous:Thanks :/
It's upset me before tonight but today was just the damn breaking point, the kids have both when whining and crying ALL day and want absolutely nothing, the dogs have been bothering each other, the youngest dog had an accident in the house, I forgot to get dinner started on time, that's the other thing I hate dinner HAS to be finished by a certain time of DH doesn't get to eat until 8 or 9 pm which means some days he goes from 7:30 am until than without a meal.
Quoting diamondsetter:
Hang in there :)
I posted the rest of the reply in another post... Going to the gym isn't optional, it's required by his job. And we don't have any room for work out equiptment or any money to buy any at all
Quoting NDADanceMom:No. He HAS to eat. He HAS to breathe. He wants to go to the gym. You can buy work out gear for the house and get a good work out in the house. He will get an hour a day extra with you.
Quoting Anonymous:
He can't, he HAS to go to the gym.
Quoting NDADanceMom:
Have him work out at home.
He keeps telling me go out and make friends, etc. but we're moving in like 3 months and where the heck would I go out and just randomly start meeting "friends"?? lol (not to mention I'm paranoid about my kids being around people I don't know and I have severe social anxiety)
Quoting diamondsetter:
I understand...my DH used to work out of state construction. He'd only be home on Saturdays and he'd spend that day taking care of things that needed done around the house...its frustrating and lonely, but that's what we are here for at CM!
Quoting Anonymous:Thanks :/
It's upset me before tonight but today was just the damn breaking point, the kids have both when whining and crying ALL day and want absolutely nothing, the dogs have been bothering each other, the youngest dog had an accident in the house, I forgot to get dinner started on time, that's the other thing I hate dinner HAS to be finished by a certain time of DH doesn't get to eat until 8 or 9 pm which means some days he goes from 7:30 am until than without a meal.
Quoting diamondsetter:
Hang in there :)
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