breaking up is hard to do

[Anonymous]

i have low self esteem... like really low. i believe i should be with an abusive ex, not with the amazing guy i'm with now.

part of me wants to break up with my guy b/c i feel like i dont deserve him. we're great together- but i dont know how much of that 'part' is real, and how much my low self esteem plays into it.

i dont want to be with someone abusive- i want to be with BF... is there a way to stop thinking like this, or will i forever feel like i need to break up with BF b/c i dont deserve him?

[DeannaLeigh79]

Stay with the good guy. Trust me, the ex will just continue to hurt and abuse. It gets worse and worse. I know it's easier to think that you want to go ack to the familiar and comfortable but it will never be what you need.

I have been there, I promise you will regret it if you o back to the ex.trust me.

You're stronger than you know and deserve better.

Do the right thing..,. You WON'T regret it!

[BekaBug]

stay with the BF. you will slowly get your self esteem back if you allow your self to. dont look to outside sources to determine your self worth, look within. hugs. good luck.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

thanks. i dont think i'd go back to the ex, persay- but i think even if i do break up with BF, i'd look for someone who is abusive, and it'll just 'prove' that thats all i deserve... and i know its not true. i just want that feeling to go away. =(

Quoting DeannaLeigh79:

Stay with the good guy. Trust me, the ex will just continue to hurt and abuse. It gets worse and worse. I know it's easier to think that you want to go ack to the familiar and comfortable but it will never be what you need.

I have been there, I promise you will regret it if you o back to the ex.trust me.

You're stronger than you know and deserve better.

Do the right thing..,. You WON'T regret it!

[jdy9440]

Stay with the guy who treats you well and seek therapy to help get your self esteem up...nobody deserves abuse.

[DeannaLeigh79]

: ( I know that feeling sucks. It will go away, I promise. If you try to think positive and keep moving forward you will see that everyday that ou wake up, the feeling gets further and further away. It's a process and you will get there. ; ) hugs!


You deserve nothing but happiness and true love!