HELP! He keeps talking about anal! (ADULT content, obviously)
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We almost tried it once after him constantly talking about it and he went too fast and I made him stop, but I have tried it before in previous relationships and don't really care for it. I honestly do like for that hole to be stimulated every now and then MAYBE fingered (if im feeling extra pornstarish LMAO )during intercouse, but I DONT want to hear how bad he wants to put it in my ass the entire time were having sex it makes it hard to get into it when that's all I'm hearing. Ugh.
I'm assuming this is some type of fantasy of his, but its getting a little rediculous! The other night when I was giving him oral he said something about me sticking my tongue in his ass I just ignored him and kept doing what I was doing. Idk if I could ever do that. At first I was thinking could he be gay? I never had a partner so into this whole anal thing.
Anyways I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to approach him with this without it being acward or like totally ruining his fantasy? Has anyone ever been through this?
Sadly, this is a serious post and I'm totally not a troll before anyone thinks that, I just REALLY need some advice on this and have NO clue how id ask my friends IRL. "/ .... Thanks!
I think the most you can do is tell him how you feel about it. Just tell him you don't like it and that you don't want him to talk about it all the time. Just being honest about it is the best way to go, even if at first he gets angry by it. He'll cool off and then hopefully lay off a bit. I'm not sure why he would have such a fascination with anal, I guess some people just have that fetish. Talking to him is always the best way to go when something is bothering you.
lol. if you do try it, start slow and small.. one finger, then two... then a small anal thing, then go up in size until you can fit him.
if you arent comfortable with it, look for the anal things, or even a strap on dildo and ask if you can do his asshole first. if he says hell no- then ask him WHY he'd think you'd be okay with it! keep it light and laugh about his answers/facial expressions, etc... if he says okay to you butt fucking him.... umm.. well... i think i'd question if he was gay on a more serious note. lol
i want to add that if SO was talking like that, and i didnt like it- i'd tell him to stop (having sex) b/c he just killed the mood for me.
eta: lol by look for the anal things-- i mean, look online at the pictures for you to "buy"
Ok, if you already tried it, and you know you don't care for it, then let him know that you just don't want, it and I totally understand, is almost a turn off when they insist and insist like freaking maniacs about the anal thing, i have to deal with that almost every six months, and I have told him, is a turn off, let it go.
Now, just because he might like you to tickle his ass hole, doesn't mean his gay, its actually very stimulant for them, but it doesn't mean their gay, I particularly don't like it, and yes, i have tried it, why not, is in your bedroom with your man, who gives a shit.
Is not bad to experiment in bed, its actually a great thing, but you both have to be comfortable with the idea, if you not, then is not going to be enjoyable for neither of you.
I wouldn't say that because he's fascinated with your ass or the possibility of you doing something to him that he is gay. Most men just have a fascination with any hole they figure they can fit their dick into: asses and mouths included. lol
I've personally never been through just what you have, OP, because I actually LIKE doing anal. Yes, it does hurt for me at first, and if he's not careful and taking his time, I often will tell him no because I don't feel like I can push past the initial pain that comes with it. When I do, though, the sex is absolutely AMAZING, and it's not long before I'm begging him to pound me as hard as he can and smack my ass. Some of my best rough sex has actually been with anal.
As far as bringing it up to him, it all depends on your stance. Are you absolutely, 100% against it, or would you possibly give it a try if he A- shut the hell up about talking about it so often, and B- promised to take an extra long time to be sure you're comfortable? Those things make a huge difference on how you should approach it.
If you truly do feel absolutely no way, no how...then I think the best bet is to just tell him straight up, in as gentle a way as possible, that you're simply not interested or into that.
If, however, you WOULD be open to it, you then need to explain to him that you're feeling pressured because he talks about it so much, and that's giving you even more anxiety about being willing to try it with him. You also need to explain that you would like to gain some pleasure from the experience, and that you're not doing it JUST for his sexual gratification or to fulfill some fantasy of his. You'll need to remind him that it won't EVER happen if he's in such an excited rush to do it that he just tries to shove it in there. He needs to be ready and WILLING to go very slow and take his time, otherwise his dick will never see the inside of your ass, period.
Anyways, if I were you, that's what I'd do! Good luck!
Quoting Anonymous:
Wow I' tell him " what the hell are u gay fool enough with the ass comments it aint going in there " hehe Good Luck....
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