Thought maybe saying it........ idk

[Anonymous]

I think my husband is giving up

I think hes giving up on our love and for the sake of our DD he stays around but for me idk. He didnt get me a thing for valentines day and when i asked him about it he said he had a lot on his mind. I told him what i had sex with you and he shouted at me and when was the last time before that!! (4days ago was the last time) 

He makes stupid comments to me now. Like if you ever stop giving me head we'll be over. Or like theres a hot 19year old at his job and that he calls his boss "My African Queen" =( . I know i know im that pathetic girl on TV that you always say ON NO IF THAT WAS ME, but i cant help it. I love him. When we have sex all he ever does it call me a slut or ho (which i guess is his thing) but i said i love you and he acted as if he hadnt heard it!

The other day i confronted him. Told him i know he doesnt feel the same way about me, he replied "i dont want to be with anyone else well i mean at least i dont want to be in a relationship with anyone else." 

I know the sex isnt the same but we have a 7month old and im just so tired by the end of the night! HE NEVER WAKES UP TO HELP, and he almost never changes a diaper. He comes home from work and goes online to watch porn instead of watch her. I cant even shower until like 11 or 12 at night when i know she is in a deep sleep.  

I guess i just wanted to type this because maybe if i did i would see how stupid it might be to fight for someone who is slowly giving up the fight for me

[Frogy]

 I'm so sorry you're going through this.  I know it is hard.  try talking to him see if he is willing to go to counseling. It might help.

[Jinxed8]

I feel bad for you ... cause he treats you bad and you long for him. Sorry you're going throught this

[Cochise]

Sounds like you two need some alone time... a nice night out together...can you have your mother watch your baby for you ?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

yea i brought up the idea to him for us to maybe get a hotel ( he works for a very nice hotel chain so duh we can get one) 

but some how the subject of polyamory came up and he decided that we are now swingers =( . Which i was ok with trying i guess but now i just dont know 

[Anonymous]

I am not trying to be mean, but it sounds like he has already given up.

Quoting Anonymous: he replied "i dont want to be with anyone else well i mean at least i dont want to be in a relationship with anyone else." 

[jdy9440]

He comes home from work and watches porn instead of spending time with your new baby and you??? That is so wrong!

[cassie19831]

I'm so sorry you are going through that. Have you considered therapy. Communication is very important. If he is shouting it may be hard to actually communicated without just yelling and not solving things. But sharing in therapy people tend to approach it better. You are fighting for a man that may not be worth fighting for. But since you love him therapy will at least help you see if he is worth it or not.

Good luck.

[daisyb]

I know you Love him & this is not what you want to hear but- you deserve so much more than that & so does your Little Girl.. i hope things get better for you soon- Lots of Luck!

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry to say this but i think he has already given up and he is with you just for your DD. If you can get help and try working together for your marriage than i'd do that and hope for the best!
I'm sorry that you're going through this dark scary feeling:(

[AnastasiaKorsh]

Will he be willing to go to therapy? If he's not, and he's unwilling to change I don't see the situation getting any better. I'm sorry what you're going through. But at the end of the day you're going to have to take care of yourself and your daughter and do whats best for both of you, even if that means leaving.