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I lost my orgasm.

Anonymous
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I have seem to have lost my orgasm.  I had them all the time with Dh before I gave birth to my first child in 2002.  After that I haven't had one.  It is like I am in a constant state of almost getting there but never get there.  It sucks.  

We have had to start scheduling sex, because I am not interested.  I am guessing because I can't reach orgasm. DH is not happy about it, because I am just there. No amount of faking it gets me to making it. To be totally honest, I would be happy if we never had sex, again.  DH wouldn't. 

I have talked to my doctor, but she has no clue what is going on.  I had all my kids (3) through c-sections, so not sure how that plays into it.  It would be nice to have orgasms, but it would be really nice to want to have sex.  *sigh* Anyone?

P.S.  I can't even get there by myself.  

Posted by Anonymous on Feb. 24, 2012 at 9:40 PM
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wrensong
by Pagan Mother on Feb. 24, 2012 at 9:44 PM

 Are you on an antidepressant or other medication that could cause it? I had that problem when I was on Paxil. If so, have your dr change your meds.

If not could it bepsychological? Maybe try a session with a counselor or sex therpaist?

MamaLub
by Gold Member on Feb. 24, 2012 at 9:47 PM
Have you tried a clit stimulator
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Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 24, 2012 at 9:48 PM

I haven't been on an antidepressant since the mid 90's.  That was Zoloft.  I have talked to a regular therapist for many years regarding this and nothing.  

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 24, 2012 at 10:03 PM


Quoting MamaLub:

Have you tried a clit stimulator

Still doesn't get me there, but if you go long enough it will start to hurt. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 24, 2012 at 10:05 PM

 u need a woman.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 24, 2012 at 10:24 PM
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I am posting anon because of the nature of this, Im to shy for EVERYONE to know. I had this problem and spoke to my gyno about it my male gyno dr had no clue but when I switched to female Dr she told me to het some vics vapo rub.... lightly touch it and then lightly place it on the Clitoris... it helps the blood to be stimulated there properly and gets it going... it only took like 2 or 3 times and omg I got it back!!!! Good luck to you I really know how you feel.... I went 3 years with out mine!

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Feb. 24, 2012 at 10:26 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

 u need a woman.

Um....no!

rockinmomnwife
by Silver Member on Feb. 24, 2012 at 10:29 PM

 I don't know if that is possible due to having a baby...after I had my first my orgasms were a lot more intense... good luck to you!
Maybe you are uncomfortable with the way your body looks now?

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Feb. 24, 2012 at 10:30 PM
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I hope u find it :/
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PartyGalAnne
by on Feb. 25, 2012 at 1:53 AM
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Most women's inability to orgasm (especially suddenly) is mental. You need to remove your head from the game. If all you are thinking is "I hope I orgasm, OMG I hope I make it there this time, I'm trying so hard, I really want to have an orgasm.", YOU WON'T. You need to focus on the pleasure. Enjoy it. Don't worry about getting there, just enjoy the journey.

Schedule alone time for yourself. Lock the doors, light candles, have wine, play music, watch porn if you want... whatever will help you relax. Let your mind wander. Think of some fantasy, think of your hubby, think of some amazingly hot sex you had. Start to touch yourself. If it feels good you are doing it right. It doesn't mean you have to start ramming yourself with a dildo, it means touch yourself. Your neck, your breasts, stomach, thighs...

That should get you started! Don't stop until you are satisfied!


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