I will be the first to say my son is pretty good most of the time. He keeps his room clean, very rarely mouths off, does great in school, and doesn't watch much tv or video games.
BUT...lately I can tell its become an issue of him not taking full responsibility for his actions. I don't know how else to explain it. Here is what happened tonight...
His baseball league was having Opening Ceremonies and there are tons of games, jumpers, food, etc. Well he played on this bungy jumper for a few turns and then asked for cotton candy. My husband went and got it, but the people didn't know how to run it right so it was small and looked weird. Instead of being grateful, my son got upset because it wasn't huge. I told him it was not nice and he could either eat what was given to him or we would find another child to give it to. So he apologized, took it, and ate without further comments. After he asked if he could do the bungy thing again and then do the laser tag, which we said lets do one thing at a time. So he ran off and got in line for the bungy jumper. While in line my husband said he wanted to take him to a booth that had batting gloves because he needs a new pair. My son said fine, but when his turn was over he ran and hid. We found him and he ran again. When I got to him again I told him that he will not be doing laser tag and now will not be getting new gloves. We are leaving, please go to the car. Of course, this did not go over well. He cried, normal 8 year old tantrum. My husband and I walked away - knowing he would follow. I am not a parent that repeatedly tells a child over and over and over and over to do the same thing. I find it rude. I expect something done the one time I ask it. Yes he followed and the entire time walk was saying it was his dad's fault, he is mad, why do we have to go...etc.
I have decided that I will not be driving him to baseball tomorrow and a birthday part that he was supposed to go to. I will not be disrespected, talked to with attitude, then still be expected to take my child to activities and fun things. Its punishment for me too. I cannot tell you how much I LOVE LOVE to see him play baseball. He is really good at it and its just a fun sport to watch children play. I HATE that I won't get to see him tomorrow, but I don't know what else to do. I have made him write apology letters, its still happening. I have taken items away, its still happening. I made him call my inlaws and my sister in law to let them know he will not be playing tomorrow so they do not need to come watch. I think it was important for him to see that its not only him he is affecting as many people will now not be going because of his choices tonight.
I read this book Have A New Kid By Friday a couple of years ago for a paper I wrote. I liked the general ideas and suggestions and this is one of them. My son is only 8, but I would rather be stern now and keep consistent then have an out of control, mouth, rude, disrespectful teenager. I feel like a shitty mom right now and I am crying But I do not know what else to do. Word of advice, more suggestions, criticism, and agreement are all welcome.