FWB

[Anonymous]

What are your thoughts or experiences with a fwb?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

I saw your post. He has feelings for you. They may not be true-love-forever feelings, but they're there nonetheless.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

I had one. We both were dating other people. We started sleeping together in March of 2010. We continued on and off, but mostly on, and I developed feelings. He did too,but was scared to leave his comfortable relationship for me because of my history of getting what I want and then not wanting it any more.

Last September he moved away. We maintained friendship. Then on thanksgiving when he visited home, he and his Gf broke things off. Basically she is young and spoiled and wanted to manipulate him into moving back home and giving up a good chance in his career.

We slept together the next night, and I broke things off for good with my then-boyfriend the day after Ben (my fwb) went back to Florida.

Things progressed... We started as an open relationship and then a relationship and I proposed to him on Feb 16th.

We're getting married this June and I'm relocating to be with him at the end of the school year.

How sweet!! Im glad things worked out for you two. I have been fwb with this man for a couple of years. He has been asking me questions like do you see yourself with someone like me? Do you feel safe with me? I dont understand where he is going with his questions and afraid to ask.

I do for him as well. All our friends say we belong together...we are so much alike. I think we are both hiding from our feelings. Maybe one day it will come together. I just keep saying it will be what it will be.

[lulu_tattoos]

Usually.
I'm proud to be an exception to the rule.

Quoting hautemama83:

Fantastic way to ruin a friendship.

[lulu_tattoos]

That's a good outlook. But don't push each other away, either.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

I saw your post. He has feelings for you. They may not be true-love-forever feelings, but they're there nonetheless.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

I had one. We both were dating other people. We started sleeping together in March of 2010. We continued on and off, but mostly on, and I developed feelings. He did too,but was scared to leave his comfortable relationship for me because of my history of getting what I want and then not wanting it any more.


Last September he moved away. We maintained friendship. Then on thanksgiving when he visited home, he and his Gf broke things off. Basically she is young and spoiled and wanted to manipulate him into moving back home and giving up a good chance in his career.


We slept together the next night, and I broke things off for good with my then-boyfriend the day after Ben (my fwb) went back to Florida.


Things progressed... We started as an open relationship and then a relationship and I proposed to him on Feb 16th.


We're getting married this June and I'm relocating to be with him at the end of the school year.

How sweet!! Im glad things worked out for you two. I have been fwb with this man for a couple of years. He has been asking me questions like do you see yourself with someone like me? Do you feel safe with me? I dont understand where he is going with his questions and afraid to ask.

I do for him as well. All our friends say we belong together...we are so much alike. I think we are both hiding from our feelings. Maybe one day it will come together. I just keep saying it will be what it will be.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

That's a good outlook. But don't push each other away, either.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

I saw your post. He has feelings for you. They may not be true-love-forever feelings, but they're there nonetheless.

Quoting Anonymous:

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

I had one. We both were dating other people. We started sleeping together in March of 2010. We continued on and off, but mostly on, and I developed feelings. He did too,but was scared to leave his comfortable relationship for me because of my history of getting what I want and then not wanting it any more.


Last September he moved away. We maintained friendship. Then on thanksgiving when he visited home, he and his Gf broke things off. Basically she is young and spoiled and wanted to manipulate him into moving back home and giving up a good chance in his career.


We slept together the next night, and I broke things off for good with my then-boyfriend the day after Ben (my fwb) went back to Florida.


Things progressed... We started as an open relationship and then a relationship and I proposed to him on Feb 16th.


We're getting married this June and I'm relocating to be with him at the end of the school year.

How sweet!! Im glad things worked out for you two. I have been fwb with this man for a couple of years. He has been asking me questions like do you see yourself with someone like me? Do you feel safe with me? I dont understand where he is going with his questions and afraid to ask.

I do for him as well. All our friends say we belong together...we are so much alike. I think we are both hiding from our feelings. Maybe one day it will come together. I just keep saying it will be what it will be.

No...we went thru several months of not talking. Just started talking again a few months ago. We hung out this weekend for the first time since we had our disagreement. When we were not talking and would be out...I always felt like he was watching me and was told he was by others too...so they saw him watching.

[lulu_tattoos]

I wish you the best of luck, anon.
My best advice is to go into it with as few expectations as possible. If you have feelings, be open to cultivating them. But don't expect him to be on the same page every step of the way. You could very well end up broken hearted and miserable while you wait for him to come around.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

I wish you the best of luck, anon.
My best advice is to go into it with as few expectations as possible. If you have feelings, be open to cultivating them. But don't expect him to be on the same page every step of the way. You could very well end up broken hearted and miserable while you wait for him to come around.

Thank you. I am going at it as it is what it is...if its meant to be more it will develop into more. Im not limiting my self to him and seeing someone else. I have a date this weekend with the other guy. He knows about him. He said he doesnt see me with someone like this other guy. We will just see what happens. Congratulations on your umcoming marriaage.

[lulu_tattoos]

Honestly I think dating other people will complicate things and cause resentment if you both really do have feelings for each other.
I would try to talk to him about the feelings/potential. You need to lay a solid ground of good communication if it ever gets serious.
And thank you :)

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Quoting lulu_tattoos:

Honestly I think dating other people will complicate things and cause resentment if you both really do have feelings for each other.
I would try to talk to him about the feelings/potential. You need to lay a solid ground of good communication if it ever gets serious.
And thank you :)

Thats pretty much what my friend here said. Plus the other guy Im going out with is a very jealous man. If he found out about this fwb he would be very angry with me. I am thinking of backing out this weekend. Your welcome

[Esg1231]

No personal experience myself, but I know a few friends that think its great (one in particular). What she failed to notice, or maybe she did notice but refused to aknowlage, was that it can be more devastating then trying to have a real relationship. Idk, I disagree with it. But whatever floats your boat you know? Who cares if I think its a bad idea.