am i defective?

[Anonymous]

i have been with boyfriend for several months. he treats me and my daughter extremly well! he has a daughter that i adore and she adores me too.

i wonder if i am staying because i am so attached to his daughter. i love our family time together (the 4 of us) but i am not sure that i am in love with him. i dont know if its him or if its me wanting to keep a death grip on my independence - i can totally admit i need a lot of me time!

i dont know that i will ever find someone else that will treat me and my daughter so well.

if i break up with him i will be crushing 3 people (him, his daughter and my daughter).

maybe i will grow to be in love with him?

i am just not a needy person. maybe i am not relationship material? i find myself having weekends alone often because i need them (when daughter is with her dad), if i was in love with him wouldnt i want to spend as much time with him as possible? we do not see each other during the week due to distance.