I've been in a fifteen year marriage and my husband is mentally/emotionally abusive, always has been. In fact he's been physically and sexually abusive in the past as well. He threatened to kill me early in our marriage and I've feared for my life ever since. He's threatened that if I left him and tried to get custody he'd make sure neither of us got the kids. I could give you a million instances of abuse but let's just say its a typically mentally abusive relationship. For example he blames me for everything even his own mistakes, he doesn't care when our kids need haircuts or new clothes he spends his money on weed, he calls me and my kids names almost daily, he tells my kids I don't love them because I don't have a job. He controls every little thing i do, where i go and when, im not allowed to have friends, he doesnt let me see my family when i want. That's just a quick background.
My question is...he expects me to care about his feelings, he expects sex, he expects me to make his lunches every night, he expects me to kiss his ass. I do make his lunches and I only have sex about once a week cuz he's ugly to me inside. He's a mean, vicious person and has been for fifteen years. after that amount of time I know he's not going to change. He's always saying I don't do enough for him but in my opinion he doesn't deserve it.
Am I right or wrong? Do I owe him favors and sex because we're married and he pays the bills? When Ive worked in the past he'd take my money and buy weed and leave me with almost no money so I'm not going to work. I do plan on getting a job soon and leaving soon after that. I just want to know if I'm wrong or right.