Would You Let Your Kids Spend Time With Your Ex and His Same Sex Partner?
Six months ago,my friend's husband came out as gay. He told her that he loved her,but he wasn't in love with her,that it was nothing to do with her,he simply wasn't attracted to women. As you can imagine, my friend was completely devestated. They have two children little girls together, 4 and 6, and at first,she tried very hard to keep things as normal as possible for the girls, splitting custody, not badmouthing their father in front of them and tried very hard to still be friendly with her ex and not fight with him in front of the girls. Everything was going as well as can be expected until a few weeks ago when her ex told her that his boyfriend,who he'd been seeing while they were still married, would be moving in with him. At this my friend went balistic, for lack of a better word, and since then, she has refused to let him see or have any contact at all with the girls. She says that she is planning to sue for full custody and ask the court to deny him visitation rights. I think that this was just the straw that broke the camel's back and she just couldn't take anymore, because this is nothing like the woman that I've known for years. She has gay friends and is very supportive of gay marriage. This is extremely out of character for her. I have tried talking to her and telling her that the girls deserve to have both parents in their lives because in spite of any mistakes that her ex may have made during their marriage and their divorce, he truely loves his daughters and has always been very involved in their lives and I know from talking to mutal friends that he misses them very much.
My question is,how would you all react in her situation? Would you let your ex see your kids?