Before you bite my head off, let me explain.
Explanation 1.) I'm jealous. I actually serve in the military, I'm active duty. I'm also a single mom. I stare at them in envy as I
a.) wake up a 3:45 in the morning to get up in time enough to breastfeed my son, pump milk for him to have for the day, get him and myself dressed, and out the door on time enough to get him to daycare and me to PT. I just wanna keep my baby at home and snuggle with him. :(
b.) come home during the day to get something that I forgot and I hear them in their apartment laughing and joking and having a good time with other military wives. I'm tired from working all day, I just really want a long nap :(
c.) watch them take their small children around to museums and stores during the work day. I wanna spend time like that with my baby. :(
d.) happen to see their spotless homes... Can you come clean mine while I'm at work, it looks like a tornado just been through mine. :(
Explanation 2.) Some of them take advantage of the younger men.
a.) my brother happens to fall in this category. I don't like it, and it's wrong.
b.) I'm sorry but, no man should have to take care of a woman (esp a woman who refuses to work to help pay the bills) plus her 3 kids by 3 different men who happen to be in the military as well (some of these women hop from one soldier to another). If this is you, stop it! Make a life for yourself, you put yourself into this mess, get yourself out. And not at the expense of others.
Explanation 3.) Some try to "wear" their husbands' rank.
a.) No! I don't HAVE to call you ma'am, I do that out of the respect that my MOM taught me.
b.) The military doesn't define you, it's not who you are, it's something that your husband does.
Ok, that is all. I know that some of you are going to hate me or say mean things, but wives, if you are not this type of person, then you should jump on the bandwagon with me to stop these females who give you guys a bad name.
****Edit****
Thank you for all your supportive comments, I was a little down when I made this post. But I want to tell the military wives something. Since being in Korea I really have seen more good than bad and to the ones who really do love their hubbies and are supportive, thank you for being patient with them. I thank my baby everyday (even though he can't understand) for being patient and willing to follow me where ever I go. That is not easy. So thank you for that (the ones that don't fall in my last 2 categories lol).
wow. i didnt realize what i was about to read. but atleast you have good facts to not like them... but it seems more like u miss the staying at home type of ordel. i only work three days a week so i get to be home with my kids for the other 4 days... i wish it was all the time..but then my children wouldnt have the things they need. do you have a husband in the milltary? either way it doesnt matter. i work as a cna and my shift is considered weekend option. so i get paid pretty much 40 hours a week for working those three days...sometimes i hate it and working on the weekends but it gives me the time to be a sahm in a way.. and still working...
I don't like SOME for explanation number three you said. Ugh, they act like I owe THEM something. It's your husband who serves, not you.
I feel for you but its not there fault that you babys daddy isnt there for you. Ive been in your situation work my ass of and watched other woman be able to raise there child with the support of a good man. Its better for the kids if the mom stays home and runs the house. Its the ideal setup for them and tbh a stay at home mom does do alot of work.. I think you would feel this way about anyone who was able to stay at home with there children.
OMG! #3 WEARING YOUR HUSBAND'S RANK!! You know who you are. I hate that sh*t! You didn't earn that promotion he did. I don't care that your husband is Major DoLittle. And you yelling in my face, asking me "Do you know who my husband is?" doesn't phase me. No I don't who he is but I feel sorry for the poor man. (Literally told someone this, almost cost me my job). Little do you realize how bad you make not only yourself, but your husband look too...that is all. I digress.
*Thanks for your service!!!!!!
Ok. DH is retired USAF, officer and fighter WSO.
I expect that you could say #1 about any SAHM, military or not. I'm sorry that you're not in a position to stay home with your little ones, because it sounds like that would be your choice if you could make it. That's a difficult situation and I hope that you're able to find as much time as possible with them.
I can guarantee you that their lives are not as perfect as they seem. I'm a terrible housekeeper and spent the year after my DD was born sunk in the mire of PPD. I was lucky to get dressed most mornings, much less energetic enough to hit the museums and parks.
At some stations, my friends were the other wives because the only contact I had with the outside world was through OWC (OCSC) and squadron wives' coffees. I didn't use a babysitter or hourly care unless I had a dr's appt, so those were the only 5 hours a month that I left the house without a child hanging off me.
At other stations, we lived well off base, so my friends were all civilians who didn't give a crap who my husband was. They never saw him, and some of them probably thought I was a single mom.
Even though my kids are in school, I'm still a SAHM, but I work at home.
#2 is just flat-out disgusting. It happens at all ranks and it's never okay.
#3 ... I never saw anyone actually do that. I would hear about it second-hand, but I never actually witnessed it. That's pitiable. They're so insecure in themselves that they submerge their identity completely to a little brass collar pin.
I see the larger point of your post. I get that you needed to vent. But the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. You can't make blanket statements about people because at bottom, we're all just people.
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- Luvmyfam7
on Mar. 30, 2012 at 12:05 AM