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Is this the "norm" for an annual gynecological exam?? I'm kinda freaked out. :(

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I'm fairly new to the city I live in, and recently had my first exam since moving here.  I was referred to a doc by a friend of mine, but wasn't able to get in with her, so I got in with another doc from the same office.  I've actually never had a female gyno, so it didn't bother me that this doc is a male.

There were a couple things that were different during this exam that I have never experienced before.  While he was doing the pap, he said everything looks good, no abnormalities from what I can see.  Okay, that's fine.  But when he went to do a pelvic, he took his free hand and raised the sheet and looked at my tummy.  He said he was looking for c-section scars.  I said "no, all three of my children were vaginal births".  He said "that's amazing".  O.O  WHAT???  Then, he asked me to do a kegel and hold it, saying it was to see if I was doing them correctly. I did one, and he said "okay, you are DEFINITELY doing it correctly, you can let go.  Your husband must be very happy." and then he let out a little chuckle. 

I'm definitely NOT going back to this particular doc. I  feel that his comments VERY unprofessional at best.  BUT, I'm 35 years old and I have NEVER had a doc as me to do a keagle during the exam.  Is this protocall?  Have my other docs the past 20 years just overlooked the kegel test? 

 

***ETA***  There was one other person in the room.   A male student doc. 

I couldn't say anything at the time, as I was having a hard time processing what I was hearing.  I was actually speechless.

I don't want to deal with reporting him, since it sounds like other women have experienced the kegel test as well.  Some women don't mind that kind of  "humor", but it made me uncomfortable (call me a prude if you wish)  I don't want to ruin a person's reputation or  career because of a little uneasiness on my part. I just choose to not return to this particular doc. 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:15 AM
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Earth_Mama90
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:23 AM
After vaginal births they do. And since your getting older he probably wants to make sure the muscles are staying tight
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:24 AM

A nurse wasn't, but a student doc was.

Quoting maddie02:

There was no reason for him to be testing your kegal except to get his kicks. I wouldn't go back. Was a nurse present during the physical exam?


november117
by Silver Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:24 AM

Weird and totally uncalled for.  Call the office manager and file a complaint.

BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs
by Platinum Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:24 AM

Yeah. I don't know if the kegel thing is routine. I never had that happen to me, so I thought that was a little off as well.

His comments are what gets me. I would report him. Was there a female nurse in the room with you?

Quoting Anonymous:

I can assure you it's very serious.  I know his words are definitely out of line, and that alone is enough to make me not want to go back.  I didn't know if the kegel test was a new thing that had been added to a routine exam.  In a way, I could kind of understand if it was a new protocall.  Making sure women do them correctly could prevent other medical issues.  It just struck me as odd.

Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Really? If this is serious, do you even have to ask if this was normal?

Fuck no, it's not. Report his ass.



Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:24 AM

My youngest is 9.

Quoting Earth_Mama90:

After vaginal births they do. And since your getting older he probably wants to make sure the muscles are staying tight


Earth_Mama90
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:24 AM
Honestly I think they know how uncomfortable the exam is so the try to lighten the mood. My midwife would make jokes all the time
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etsmom
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:24 AM

Never had to do a kegel in office. She has checked my scar though. We don't have those kind of conversations.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:25 AM

Nope, just a male student.

Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Yeah. I don't know if the kegel thing is routine. I never had that happen to me, so I thought that was a little off as well.

His comments are what gets me. I would report him. Was there a female nurse in the room with you?

Quoting Anonymous:

I can assure you it's very serious.  I know his words are definitely out of line, and that alone is enough to make me not want to go back.  I didn't know if the kegel test was a new thing that had been added to a routine exam.  In a way, I could kind of understand if it was a new protocall.  Making sure women do them correctly could prevent other medical issues.  It just struck me as odd.

Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Really? If this is serious, do you even have to ask if this was normal?

Fuck no, it's not. Report his ass.

 



mstevens10
by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:25 AM

Drs can test Kegals to see if they are weak or strong. If they are weak it may be a possible sign of urinary incontinence (sp?) .

Earth_Mama90
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:25 AM
Ya but you've had three vaginal births and your getting older.

Quoting Anonymous:

My youngest is 9.


Quoting Earth_Mama90:

After vaginal births they do. And since your getting older he probably wants to make sure the muscles are staying tight


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