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Is this the "norm" for an annual gynecological exam?? I'm kinda freaked out. :(

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I'm fairly new to the city I live in, and recently had my first exam since moving here.  I was referred to a doc by a friend of mine, but wasn't able to get in with her, so I got in with another doc from the same office.  I've actually never had a female gyno, so it didn't bother me that this doc is a male.

There were a couple things that were different during this exam that I have never experienced before.  While he was doing the pap, he said everything looks good, no abnormalities from what I can see.  Okay, that's fine.  But when he went to do a pelvic, he took his free hand and raised the sheet and looked at my tummy.  He said he was looking for c-section scars.  I said "no, all three of my children were vaginal births".  He said "that's amazing".  O.O  WHAT???  Then, he asked me to do a kegel and hold it, saying it was to see if I was doing them correctly. I did one, and he said "okay, you are DEFINITELY doing it correctly, you can let go.  Your husband must be very happy." and then he let out a little chuckle. 

I'm definitely NOT going back to this particular doc. I  feel that his comments VERY unprofessional at best.  BUT, I'm 35 years old and I have NEVER had a doc as me to do a keagle during the exam.  Is this protocall?  Have my other docs the past 20 years just overlooked the kegel test? 


***ETA***  There was one other person in the room.   A male student doc. 

I couldn't say anything at the time, as I was having a hard time processing what I was hearing.  I was actually speechless.

I don't want to deal with reporting him, since it sounds like other women have experienced the kegel test as well.  Some women don't mind that kind of  "humor", but it made me uncomfortable (call me a prude if you wish)  I don't want to ruin a person's reputation or  career because of a little uneasiness on my part. I just choose to not return to this particular doc. 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:15 AM
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by Platinum Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:31 AM

I'm not 100% either. Might be something you would have to look into.

The way I've always understood it though is when a male doctor is doing a pelvic exam, they have to have a nurse present. I've just heard that it has to be a female...which honestly, makes sense to me.

Quoting Anonymous:

Not sure about those rules.

Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Wow. I'm pretty sure that another female must be present.

Quoting Anonymous:

Nope, just a male student.

Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Yeah. I don't know if the kegel thing is routine. I never had that happen to me, so I thought that was a little off as well.

His comments are what gets me. I would report him. Was there a female nurse in the room with you?

Quoting Anonymous:

I can assure you it's very serious.  I know his words are definitely out of line, and that alone is enough to make me not want to go back.  I didn't know if the kegel test was a new thing that had been added to a routine exam.  In a way, I could kind of understand if it was a new protocall.  Making sure women do them correctly could prevent other medical issues.  It just struck me as odd.

Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Really? If this is serious, do you even have to ask if this was normal?

Fuck no, it's not. Report his ass.

by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:31 AM

I would just think he's checking for vaginal muscle and checking for weakness- the comment seems like a bedside manner that simply doesn't agree with you, but I wouldn't think it was criminal or anything. If I were you I'd change docs if he makes you uncomfortable. But gynos talk to their patients about their reproductive and sexual health, so a sex related joke doesn't by my standards sound out of line. but maybe I'm just more relaxed about those things~

by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:32 AM
Whats a keagel?
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by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:32 AM

I don't see how he's a creeper.... I think he was just making sure that your muscles were how they are supposed to be.... My Gyno does that and it's a she....

by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:33 AM

I would repot it.  I have never had to do kega in the office, however they do ask if I do them.  But normal or not there should have been a female in the room with you.

by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:33 AM

I have NEVER had a doctor ask for me to do one like that, and I just had twins 5 1/2 months ago. The doctors all asked if I was preforming them and always gave me literature on how to do them and how important they are and really stressed how important they are actually, but never once checked to see if I was doing them right, that is VERY questionable and I would not return and also look into reporting them. I am sure you aren't the only one he has done this to and he has probably taken it further with other patients. Report him! Did he have another doctor or nurse in the office when he did this? As far as I understand it's law for their to be at least 1 additional person(ie another doctor or a nurse) during a pelvic exam. I am so sorry you had to experience this.

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by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:33 AM
No. I've had two different male OBs and it's never been necessary for a female to be in the room with me.

Quoting Terra3:

That is definitely out of line and I would report it. Was there anyone else in the room with you? At every pap or vaginal exam I've ever had the doctor will not start until someone else, usually a nurse, is in the room. The nurse doesn't do anything other than stand by my head or by the door but it's done for the safety of the patient and the doctor. I thought this was standard practice but maybe not.
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by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:33 AM
I've heard plenty of women talk about having to do the kegals for their dr. I would feel molested. I haven't been in 14 years. I'm 32. The other stuff is out of line.
by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:34 AM

i have had male dr.s before and they never asked me to do a kegal. they told me to do them, but not to show him!! yeah i also agree to report him!! <shudders>

by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:34 AM

 I personally have never been asked to do a kegel during an exam, so I have no idea if it's normal. But I will say that his comments were unacceptable. I'd report him.

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