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Is this the "norm" for an annual gynecological exam?? I'm kinda freaked out. :(

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I'm fairly new to the city I live in, and recently had my first exam since moving here.  I was referred to a doc by a friend of mine, but wasn't able to get in with her, so I got in with another doc from the same office.  I've actually never had a female gyno, so it didn't bother me that this doc is a male.

There were a couple things that were different during this exam that I have never experienced before.  While he was doing the pap, he said everything looks good, no abnormalities from what I can see.  Okay, that's fine.  But when he went to do a pelvic, he took his free hand and raised the sheet and looked at my tummy.  He said he was looking for c-section scars.  I said "no, all three of my children were vaginal births".  He said "that's amazing".  O.O  WHAT???  Then, he asked me to do a kegel and hold it, saying it was to see if I was doing them correctly. I did one, and he said "okay, you are DEFINITELY doing it correctly, you can let go.  Your husband must be very happy." and then he let out a little chuckle. 

I'm definitely NOT going back to this particular doc. I  feel that his comments VERY unprofessional at best.  BUT, I'm 35 years old and I have NEVER had a doc as me to do a keagle during the exam.  Is this protocall?  Have my other docs the past 20 years just overlooked the kegel test? 

 

***ETA***  There was one other person in the room.   A male student doc. 

I couldn't say anything at the time, as I was having a hard time processing what I was hearing.  I was actually speechless.

I don't want to deal with reporting him, since it sounds like other women have experienced the kegel test as well.  Some women don't mind that kind of  "humor", but it made me uncomfortable (call me a prude if you wish)  I don't want to ruin a person's reputation or  career because of a little uneasiness on my part. I just choose to not return to this particular doc. 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:15 AM
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highroad
by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:34 AM
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  The check itself is not out of bounds because it can affect your bladder,the comments were WAY out there. The lifting of the sheet was inappropriate.the sheet is there to give you a sense of modesty which he violated.This guy is having fun at your expense and he needs to be checked.He may never go any further but what if he can't get his jollies that way anymore and decides to go further.Was there a nurse or female attendant?If not you REALLY need to beware.I'd report his behavior.It may let him know that his authority is not as intimidating as he thinks.

caito
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:34 AM

Report report report.

BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs
by Platinum Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:35 AM

Maybe it varies by state? I've been checked my males multiple times. And everytime, they always had to have a nurse present, always a female too. But that could just be by chance. Lol. I have heard that a female must be present though.

I've had exams checked by females as well, and a nurse was always there. Maybe it really depends on state laws?

Quoting Earth_Mama90:

No they do not. I've only been checked by a male once and I was 16 and no female of any kind was there
gummybearjunkie
by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:35 AM

wow. that is creepy


mich.el.le
by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:35 AM

 LOL.  Um, Idk if that's normal. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:35 AM

It's an exercise for your pelvic muscles to prevent incontinence and keep your female parts where they're supposed to be.  My sis ended up with a pelvic organ prolapse and had to have an immediate, emergency hysteroctemy.

Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

Whats a keagel?


egyptian_mommy
by Gold Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:36 AM
That's weird.
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mommy_2_be_2010
by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:36 AM
Oh I see and is your sister ok now


Quoting Anonymous:

It's an exercise for your pelvic muscles to prevent incontinence and keep your female parts where they're supposed to be.  My sis ended up with a pelvic organ prolapse and had to have an immediate, emergency hysteroctemy.


Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

Whats a keagel?



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Lynette
by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:38 AM

how odd.  never had any of that at my exam.  What a creepy doc, or he has a really weird sense of humor.  Either way I wouldn't go back to him.  Also before your next exam make sure you talk to them about what happened and make sure they don't do anything like that.  You could also file a complaint..I would.

Tea4Tas
by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 10:38 AM


Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Wow. I'm pretty sure that another female must be present.

Quoting Anonymous:

Nope, just a male student.

Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Yeah. I don't know if the kegel thing is routine. I never had that happen to me, so I thought that was a little off as well.

His comments are what gets me. I would report him. Was there a female nurse in the room with you?

Quoting Anonymous:

I can assure you it's very serious.  I know his words are definitely out of line, and that alone is enough to make me not want to go back.  I didn't know if the kegel test was a new thing that had been added to a routine exam.  In a way, I could kind of understand if it was a new protocall.  Making sure women do them correctly could prevent other medical issues.  It just struck me as odd.

Quoting BeAuTiFuL.BLiSs:

Really? If this is serious, do you even have to ask if this was normal?

Fuck no, it's not. Report his ass.

 


 


No just a witness-it isn't to protect the patient, but the Dr.

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