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I might be related to my husband :-/

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I found out a while ago that my bio dad (who was killed when I was 9) might not be my dad. I did an avuncular test, as well as a sibling test, and they both showed that he was, in fact, NOT my father. 

I have tested 4 potential fathers, and all were negative.

One of the potential fathers I tested would have made my husband my first cousin. 

My mother will not tell me who my bio father is. In fact, she disowned me because I did the intial DNA test and learned that she lied to me and everyone else. She worked for my husband's great uncle, and dated my husband's sister's ex husband. She was around a LOT of his family. I'm assuming that she's not telling me because there's something to the fact that we are related.

So, we have discussed having a blood test done to see if we are related. I don't know that I want that. I don't want our relationship tainted if we turned out to be first cousins, or something, and I just prefer to not know. But, that means I will never know who my father is, also. Ugh

by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 12:36 PM
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by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:41 PM
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Well, between his neurologist, ped & GI specialist, I have a pretty good idea. :)

Quoting Anonymous:

Oh yeah.

Because YOU know what's going on internally. For fucks sake, if you think you're related you need to find out. If you don't want to, why are you here bitching about it?

Quoting Cake.Lady:

Our son is healthy & top of his class. He's fine.

Quoting Anonymous:

I think it's important for genealogy.

There's a reason imbred kids have to see geneticists
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by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:41 PM
I know for a fact that my Hubby and I share lineage. We found out last year after my uncle did our family tree. Its all marriage relations and very distant but it still creeped me out a little.
by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:42 PM

Honestly, if I were in that position, I wouldn't want to find out.

by Bronze Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:43 PM
Hmmmm....good luck!
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by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:43 PM

Take the DNA test. It may just prove that you 2 are not related, then you can rest easier.  But good luck. Gosh, that's tough. ((hugs))

by Ruby Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:43 PM
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That's something to brag and be proud of smh

Quoting Cake.Lady:

I was the original multi. Lol

Quoting Anonymous:

I think youz trying to be the new multi
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by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:44 PM

I'm so sorry you're going through this.  I just can't imagine what you must be feeling.  :(  This is one of several reasons why it's so important to know for sure who the bio parents are.Another big one being for medical reasons.   Whether it be in a case like yours, or in a case of adoption.  

by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:44 PM

wow...good luck!

if you do the test and find out you are related...would you stay together? would you tell your kids?

by on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:45 PM

 Go to Maury he loves this shit and will test you both.

by Member on Apr. 3, 2012 at 1:45 PM
Good luck. It may be worth finding out who your father is for your children's medical questions in the future. I'm sorry your mother did that to you that is terrible.
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