*update*Am I wrong.... (question concerning blended family)

[Anonymous]

**so I figured that since most of the response I had was helpful rather than just mean I'd give an update. I took the advice most of you ladies gave and made very clear arrangements with Ss mother in case I went into labor on my due date. My SO brought his son over for the weekend and honestly seeing my SO so happy just made me change my mind about tons of things. I think I fell in love with my SS this weekend, he is an amazing, entertaining kid. I did however go into labor.AS SOON as SO came back from dropping him off, how strange is that? After 16 hours of labor my son was born and now I can't wait to get out of the hospital to see how SS reacts to lil brother. I'm very anxious and excited :)**

Ok figured I'd ask this question in this site since women here are painfully honest about there feelings..

I'm gonna be a ftm, (due date is saturday) my SO has a three year old son. He just started getting unsupervised visits with his son which I know my SO really loves. But heres the hitch.
I'm due saturday. He wants his son to spend the weekend here. I told him taking his son for the entire weekend wasn't smart, I mean what does he plan to do with him if I go into labor? He said bring him with...
Bring him with? Wtf.are you kidding me? This is gonna be my first and ONLY child I intend to have, is it wrong to want my SOs undivided attention. To focus all on me while I'm birthing his son and not half assing between me and his 3 year old?
He said theres no sure prof that I'll go into labor this weekend (especially since doc told me I'm not open at all) but still why risk it? The way I see it is he has now until FOREVER to spend time with his son, and only ONE time to be sportive and attentive to me during labor...
We fought about this for days, I told him how important it is to me that hes there just for me during labor, I thought he understood and than this afternoon I heard him tell his son he's picking him up for the weekend.. Talk about a smack to the face...
Am I over reacting? Am I wrong for feeling this way?

[karla85]

I guess the question is: are 3 year old allowed in the delivery room?

[kiralyn]

Why can't he take him home if you go in to labor?

[AnakaAlisyn]

I don't think the hospital will let him be in the room.  It is just not smart for a variety of reasons.  That being said, I was just on call to babysit for my friend for her birth.  I was literally on call for four weeks while she was having mild contractions and I didn't even get to help because her mom came into town and babysat for her.  Birth can be a highly unpredictable thing.  I think you should have the son for the weekend, but have a back up plan for child care incase something does happen.

[Ataemommy]

You're being very reasonable. But so is he. Why can't you work out the mom picking up his son when you go into labor? Your due date doesn't mean anything. You could have another two weeks.

[Anonymous]

I understand your frustration but I do think you are over reacting. What if you don't go into labor this weekend?? Then ull feel like a bitch for not letting his son over.

[Anonymous]

I understand your frustration but I do think you are over reacting. What if you don't go into labor this weekend?? Then ull feel like a bitch for not letting his son over.

[rancharobeans]

I would ask him to make arrangements with the mother that if you go into labor he can drop him off and head to the hospital. A 3 yo doesnt want to see that anyway!

[fairyjester]

 you are not wrong , a hospital while his fathers attention is and should be on his birthing wife is not place for a 3 yearold.  honestly its no place for a 3 year old at all

[Anonymous]

How old are you? You sound very selfish and immature. Why get with a man that has a kid if you want his undivided attention?

Quoting Anonymous:

My SO.doesn't have family and my only family in this state is my mother who plans on being in the delivery room with me as well.. I.just think its so unfair to me, can't he just leave him with his mother and not do over night visits until after I have this baby

[Holztastic]

I think the bigger issue here is why would he possibly think a hospital waiting room or delivery room is an appropriate place for a 3 year old when it's not even HIS mommy having a baby?