Did you marry a semi illiterate who can't keep a job?

[Anonymous]

I did. He gets fired every 6mos to a year for something stupid, he can't read or write above a fourth grade level, and I wish I hadn't married him. We have a step child he pays child support for, but I end up paying it when he's out of work!
You may wonder why I married him... I do too. I thought he had potential, was sweet, and had just gotten a tough break most of his life. Now I see it has been him making his own tough breaks all along :(

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

He took classes to train as a first responder and passed the test, but then failed the other certifications. We've been through this before a few years back over a cdl license. Couldn't pass the test for anything... and didn't try hard enough IMO, though I helped him study (when he would allow me to) and bought him an online study course!

[Supervane]

No I did not. I found myself a very intelligent man with a good education.

Does your HUSBAND Have a learning disorder?

[Supervane]

Have you considered to be the bread winner of relationship? If you are smarter and have better skills maybe you can go to work and make the larger income, and maybe he can work part time and take care of the home and kids. Or if he has a trade skill he is good at maybe he can just stick to that, our do contracting or free lance work... and you have the full time income.

ETA - sometimes we have to recognize our strengths and weaknesses within ourselves and our relationship.

Quoting Anonymous:

He took classes to train as a first responder and passed the test, but then failed the other certifications. We've been through this before a few years back over a cdl license. Couldn't pass the test for anything... and didn't try hard enough IMO, though I helped him study (when he would allow me to) and bought him an online study course!

[itsm3]

No I didnt. Hubs has 2 degrees and is really smart; has a fantastic career. Sorry you're going thru this. Hope it all works out in the end

[NDADanceMom]

Nope.  I married a man that held his HS job (working at sears) until he graduated college and got another one, worked there for 5 years until they would not give him a raise to match the head hunter that found him, he left with the head hunter and has been there 13 years.  

[dipsetgrl06]

Nope. My husband has been at the same place for 7 years now. The only thing he has an issue with is spelling. Lol

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

None diagnosed.

Quoting Supervane:

No I did not. I found myself a very intelligent man with a good education.



Does your HUSBAND Have a learning disorder?

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Thanks. Luckily we don't have children together.

Quoting itsm3:

No I didnt. Hubs has 2 degrees and is really smart; has a fantastic career. Sorry you're going thru this. Hope it all works out in the end

[lovelove211]

Nope my husband works two jobs and has done so for many many years. I wish he would quit his second job but wont

[mstevens10]

No, I couldn't marry him that way.