Ok so a few years ago my boyfriend (we have a son together) had a brief fling (it lasted about 2 months) with a friend of ours. Well she ended up getting pregnant. Both she and my boyfriend said he was the father. He had told me he wanted to be in the child's life but I had concerns that he would continue the affair with her if he was in the child's life so I told him if he chose to play daddy to her kid then it was over between us and I would take our son and move out of state so he couldn't see our son. He chose to stay with me and our son (that's how it should be) . As far as I knew he'd had nothing further to do with her other than her letting him know the kid was born and what it was and it's name, untill about a year ago when I had his cell phone and seen some pictures of the kid she'd sent him. I asked him about them and he said that yeah he'd spoken with her online and said he'd like some pictures of the kid and so she sent him some. It pissed me off so I told him again that if he didn't cut off all contact thenI'd leave with our son. So far he's done what I want but I have a feeling somewhere down the line he'll get in touch with her again and this will start all over.
Also now everyone (even some of my family) thinks I'm the one that's the bitch. He's the one that cheated and had a kid with someone else and yet I'm the bad guy. What would you have done?
Wow this post got so many replies. I know it's nearly a year old but I didn't want to have to reexplain it all again so I'll just update on here. Well my boyfriend and I got married last year and we are now expecting another baby. He still hasn't seen or talked to his child by the other woman. The child would be over 3 years old now. We're very happily married yet I still worry at times, mainly becuase the other child will start school next year. It will be going to the same school my son does. What happens if he is up there picking up our son and sees the child or the mother? How should I handle that?