I am a submissive wife.. ask away.
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I've always had this question. Please don't take offense, but I really have to know.
You say he "feels protective." Well, what is he protecting you from? I don't get it.
And how does a "dominant man take care of" someone as opposed to, like, a nondominant man? What sets the dominant man apart?
Quoting Nicoleb9:I am, too. I enjoy being reverenced. I like being taken care of the way that a dominant man does. I like feeling physically weaker than him because that makes him protective of me.
I guess its a lot like making sure that you are safe and he feels good about where you are and what you are doing to create harmony.
Quoting SlightlyPerfect:I've always had this question. Please don't take offense, but I really have to know.
You say he "feels protective." Well, what is he protecting you from? I don't get it.
And how does a "dominant man take care of" someone as opposed to, like, a nondominant man? What sets the dominant man apart?
Quoting Nicoleb9:I am, too. I enjoy being reverenced. I like being taken care of the way that a dominant man does. I like feeling physically weaker than him because that makes him protective of me.
Quoting delilahsmom1177:I am a submissive Gf. My BF and I do not wnat to get married. We do not live together right now BUT when I am at his house I wasj his dishes from when i am not there. I fill his cup, I cook clean etc etc. This Friday he woke me up to make the kids breakfast even though he was up... I dont care I love taking care of my man.... He loves me and my DD and shows it everyday.
What is an accommodator? Is that like a personality type? I used to be a teacher, and the only way I understand the term is as a learning style. I tried to Google it and frame it as a social-science term, but I didn't come up with much except a vibrator.
Quoting one_on_the_way:Oh.....so you are what social science would call an accomodator?
It is women like you that I would love to choke.. We have fought for centuries and decades to be free and for what so you can have a man to tell you what it is that you need to do..
Are you that stupid that you need to let a man tell you when and how to do things?
Screw that I am so HAPPY I am a woman that is free I WOULD never allow a man to talk to me in that manner nor tell me what and how to do it.
You are truly a disgrace to women EVERYWHERE!
Quoting Anonymous:More than that. He calls the shots, I ask for permission. He controls the money. I do what he tells me to do.
Quoting one_on_the_way:I think too many women think that just because they care about their husbands opinion, cook, clean, do "traditionally wife activities" that means they are 'submissive'.
Nope.
You aren't.
You are just traditional.
Quoting Anonymous:A man who feels confident and cares for me when I do what he expects.
And feeling fullfilled in EVERY way
Quoting goodmama85:
What do you like about it?
Someone who is married for the sake and convenience of being married....who is willing to just 'go with the flow' of a marriage that doesn't really do much for them personally (other than having the status of being married).
Submissive is what DOGS do when a DOMINANT dog comes around and proclaim DOMINANCE. As in "oh, oh, oh....you have the power....and I have nothing....and you can do whatever you want because if I try to tell you different I will be stepping out of line and that is wrong of me."
It is not just being "laid back", "happy-go-lucky" "I trust you to make important decisions"
Submission is an act of weakness.....accommodation is an act of "I dont' want to rock the boat".
Anything other than that is "I don't have a strong enough opinion about anything that matters so I will leave it up to him and 'claim' to be 'a submissive wife' on an online forum b/c that makes me seem different and more accepting of my husband as a 'MAN'"
eh.
Quoting Anonymous:
Ok so what would make someone submissive to you?
Quoting one_on_the_way:
Oh.....so you are what social science would call an accomodator?
eh. not so special.
Quoting Anonymous:
More than that. He calls the shots, I ask for permission. He controls the money. I do what he tells me to do.
Quoting one_on_the_way:
I think too many women think that just because they care about their husbands opinion, cook, clean, do "traditionally wife activities" that means they are 'submissive'.
Nope.
You aren't.
You are just traditional.
But when wouldn't you be safe?
Quoting Anonymous:I guess its a lot like making sure that you are safe and he feels good about where you are and what you are doing to create harmony.
Quoting SlightlyPerfect:I've always had this question. Please don't take offense, but I really have to know.
You say he "feels protective." Well, what is he protecting you from? I don't get it.
And how does a "dominant man take care of" someone as opposed to, like, a nondominant man? What sets the dominant man apart?
Quoting Nicoleb9:I am, too. I enjoy being reverenced. I like being taken care of the way that a dominant man does. I like feeling physically weaker than him because that makes him protective of me.
Quoting Anonymous:
I don't understand women who do this shit! I find it to be degrading, and ridiculous! Women that think so poorly if themselves that they feel the need to be less than equal in their marriage disgust me! Have fun being a door mat and being at your mans beck and call! Not for me!
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