My husband and I adopted 3 beautiful girls from the foster care system. It is closed as the parental rights are terminated before the children are available for adoption.
We had discussed adoption prior to marriage, as I am in my 40's. We started the process in 2010 and completed the homestudy in about 9 months (ha! never realized that). Received info about the girls the same day we received our "go ahead". The girls were in our home for a couple of visits. They moved in and we signed the pre-adoption paperwork 1 year and 1 month after we had started the process.
The hardest part for us was deciding which "track" we would go - domestic baby adoption (open or closed), international adoption or foster care adoption.
It was/has been a wonderful experience for us. And now we are a Forever Family with 3 beautiful girls!
Quoting Blessedby3girls:My husband and I adopted 3 beautiful girls from the foster care system. It is closed as the parental rights are terminated before the children are available for adoption.
We had discussed adoption prior to marriage, as I am in my 40's. We started the process in 2010 and completed the homestudy in about 9 months (ha! never realized that). Received info about the girls the same day we received our "go ahead". The girls were in our home for a couple of visits. They moved in and we signed the pre-adoption paperwork 1 year and 1 month after we had started the process.
The hardest part for us was deciding which "track" we would go - domestic baby adoption (open or closed), international adoption or foster care adoption.
It was/has been a wonderful experience for us. And now we are a Forever Family with 3 beautiful girls!
We TTC for one year. I would be a high risk pregnancy, so we never did infertility treatments. We adopted two boys from foster care. Oldest was 20 months when we finalized and youngest was 17 months when finalized. We do letter updates, but for safety reasons, no visits.
Good luck!
We TTC for 2 years before we adopted. I wish I had understood what a blessing adoptiong was and I wouldn't have spent so much time and money on trying. We adopted a 9 month old through foster care. We wanted up to age 2 for our first. It's closed for safety reasons. She was from our state. :) We are having our homestudy for our next foster care adoption Wednesday! I can't wait!!!! This time we are trying to adopt up to age 4 (we want them to be younger than our 5 year old so she can stay the oldest) We are all very excited.
Do not trust that the agency, the courts, or laws will hold and then share the info with you, or the adoptee come the time or circumstance that you need contact with each other! Please!
The secret keepers will and do let us die without a concern that we want/need contact.
Do not trust them. Take and share identities. Put it in a safe place where you can control it. Not them.
We ttc for 7 years beforen we got pregnant using Clomid. We ttc due to the fact that we knew what path for adoption we wished to take and we did not meet the age requirments as we were 20 and the age requirement was 35 for many years. We ended up losing our dd Kahlan at 36 weeks. We were 28 years old and the age limit had just dropped to 30 for our program of choice.
We began the process to adopt from China in March 2005 ( 3.5 weeks before my 30th birthday) and completed the paperwork in August 2005 ( 1.5 weeks before Dh's 30th birthday). Our dossier was sent to China 3 days after his 30th birthday. In October 2005, we were accepted into the system in China and thus began our long wait. The wait for our referral was 17 months. We got the call on 2/1/07. At the time of the call, our daughter to be was 15.5 months old and living in an orphanage in Maoming China. It was another 8 weeks before we traveled to China to meet our daughter. We met her on 4/3/07 in a crowded office building in Guangzhou China. She was 2 days shy of 17 months old when we met her. She came home on 4/14/07- 11 days before my 32nd birthday.
Lilly is now 6 years old and has just celebrated 5 years with us as a family. Her adoption is closed. I would give anything in the world to give her the information she seeks.
Adopteeme is a great resource in this. She is part of a closed adoption and knows first hand what that lack of information can do to an adoptee. Remember, THEY are the ones that do not choose to be separated from their biological family. They are the voices that should be heard and never silenced. An adoption should always center around what is best for the child- not the first mom, not the prospective adoptive parents or the adoptive parents.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask.
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on Apr. 10, 2012 at 12:12 AM