See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I am so fucking pissed off right now!
I have full custody of our daughter. no court papers at all! well child support, but no visitation papers! we were never married.
ok so our daughter does not spend the night during the week with her dad. she goes to school where i work and her dad doesnt drive.
because of a situation our daughter spent the night with him last night and his mom took daughter to school and picked her up. i didnt go to work. every wed. they have daughter after school til 7pm.
tonight it gets to be 7:20 and no word from him so i text "why is she late?" - he texts back "i thought she was staying here again and she has her pajamas on." - i say that he knows damn good and well that we never disvcussed her staying tonight! after going back andf forth for 20 minutes he admits that we NEVER discussed daughter staying there tonight! yes i saved the text!
so he didnt return her as agreed. purposly kept her and didnt tell me til i asked what was going on! then admitted that we didnt even talk about her staying there! basically admitting that he kept her without consent!
i will NOT go get daughter and cause drama in front of her and he knows this and that is why he is doing this! he wants 50/50. he cant keep a job, has a revoked drivers lic and lives with his parents, who wouldnt even let him stay there when they went on a cruise last week because they didnt want him drinking there!
he texted me and said "this proves that i can keep her on a schedule and 50/50 would work!" - ummm... no asshole! this proves that i cant trust you to return daughter as agreed!
since i have full custody i am thinking of taking away overnights for a while. it would break daughters heart though. but i cant let him think that this is acceptable! i know next wed. he will want to keep her overnight. but as i said he doesnt drive so that means i have to go to his (moms) house on way to work to get her.
what would you do if your ex didnt return your child? especially on a school night?