I live in a military community. My primary job is in health care,but I am also in an industry where having a great body and attractive face are necessary to become successful (not my day job). Anyhow,to make a long story short,I have been involved with a man who lives in the complex. Across the path actually. He is in the military. For the past few months,we go out and hang out, when im available(I travel alot for work,he has more free time bc he is upper ranked,vs junior enlisted). He also brings his kids for playdates with my ds. Hes so good with him. Anyhow we started sleeping together,and I thought we had an agreement that it was just sex and a good time. Recently(as in last month) hes been saying he wants to make things serious,that Im what he's always been looking for in a woman,his dream woman,etc. Last night,he told me that he wants to be serious. He also showed me an attorney's info and the plan put forth for him,as well as a commitment ring. I dont know what to do or say. I like things the way they are,but he wants to be serious. The major problem is,he is willing to file divorce,which I think he should have long before I came along. I met his wife,she is not good to him or the kids. They have been seperated for awhile,she lives upstairs,he lives downstairs,but he mainly takes care of and provides for the kids. I saw him when i went for my run this morning and he brought it up again. I just dont know what to do... Advice???