He wants to be with me!

[Anonymous]

I live in a military community. My primary job is in health care,but I am also in an industry where having a great body and attractive face are necessary to become successful (not my day job). Anyhow,to make a long story short,I have been involved with a man who lives in the complex. Across the path actually. He is in the military. For the past few months,we go out and hang out, when im available(I travel alot for work,he has more free time bc he is upper ranked,vs junior enlisted). He also brings his kids for playdates with my ds. Hes so good with him. Anyhow we started sleeping together,and I thought we had an agreement that it was just sex and a good time. Recently(as in last month) hes been saying he wants to make things serious,that Im what he's always been looking for in a woman,his dream woman,etc. Last night,he told me that he wants to be serious. He also showed me an attorney's info and the plan put forth for him,as well as a commitment ring. I dont know what to do or say. I like things the way they are,but he wants to be serious. The major problem is,he is willing to file divorce,which I think he should have long before I came along. I met his wife,she is not good to him or the kids. They have been seperated for awhile,she lives upstairs,he lives downstairs,but he mainly takes care of and provides for the kids. I saw him when i went for my run this morning and he brought it up again. I just dont know what to do... Advice???

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Ok,being that you know the situation better than i do

Quoting Ms.Mysterious:

"I think"



Yeah, that says it all!



You are considering getting into a "serious relationship" with a man who you are not 100% certain is done with his marriage.

Quoting Anonymous:

I think they will get a divorce whether I am with him or hes single. I guess my biggest issue is that he wants to be commited,but Im not sure if Im ready or willing to give up my freedom. I do care about him and enjoy him,but I have fun being single

Quoting etsmom:

Tell him what you feel. If you don't reciprocate the feelings let him know. Shouldn't be fucking a married guy though. If he is serious about ending a marriage, he will divorce whether or not you are involved.If you want things to move forward, tell him that the marriage has to be done on paper. 

[ReadWriteLuv]

THIS!!!

Quoting Anonymous:

Wanna know one thing that will ALWAYS complicated things? Fucking a married guy. Separated or not.

Don't want to be serious? Tell him. Want to be serious? Demand he at least files for divorce before you consider it. The best thing to do if you would like to be serious is wait until he is actually divorced.

[nickysmom71]

Sounds like you want to continue being a cum dumpster.....for a married man. 

[ABeautifulLie]

 So he takes you to military sponsored events? What a fantastic soldier and leader he is! Being that he is "upper ranking" he should know that in the military you are either married or you aren't.....seperation is not recognized. So legally he is cheating and you are the other woman. That he brings you around his soldiers (assuming he has them since he has some rank as you say) when he's married.....yep great example he is showing them. What a douchebag.

Quoting Anonymous:

I have one child and we dont do things as a family with the kids...mainly just military sponsered events,so its not like hes with my son as a father figure

 

[Anonymous]

stripper or hooker?

either way, keep your paws off the married man.  I don't care how long he's been separated, he's still married.

If you really care about him, you'll leave him be and stop encouraging him to risk his livelihood.

[mes_deux_amours]

They live together. He's lying to you.

Quoting Anonymous:

He is getting a divorce and they are seperated

Quoting mes_deux_amours:

He's married. What's to consider? Tell him no way.

[Anonymous]

hey hunni u are aware that he can be kicked out of the military for even having this affair for "Actions unbecoming of an officer"... good job!!! *not*

you keep stripping or doing porn and leave him alone!

[Ms.Mysterious]

Yeah, you'll get what you deserve...

Like, he'll love you until the next "too hot to trot" stripper comes along!

What goes around comes around...

Quoting Anonymous:

I will sleep w/anyone I choose to. Thats my business. Lol,get what I deserve?

Quoting Lisa_Lynn:

 Should of thought about it before you slept with a married man, u will get what u deserve

[Anonymous]

Not sleep with a married man??

[Lisa_Lynn]

 yeah your a home wrecker, At least wait till they are divorced.

Quoting Anonymous:

I will sleep w/anyone I choose to. Thats my business. Lol,get what I deserve?

Quoting Lisa_Lynn:

 Should of thought about it before you slept with a married man, u will get what u deserve