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is it sexual abuse ?

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When I was young through my years 6 through 10 I used to play doctor with my best friend. she used to want me to sick things in her vagina...and want me to get it done back...we did it so often with a lot of different things. But just to each other. We were both the same age. Was this abuse? I struggle now with crazy thoughts and it never seemed to go away. I really don't know what to do with this.....thoughts?
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 12, 2012 at 10:38 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:20 PM
Some people may say it is abuse. But personally kids that young do not fully understand right from wrong, even if their parents tell them not to do those things. So I don't look at it as typical sexual abuse. Probably one kid projecting what she learned on the other kid, or even experimenting. Some kids some how find out things on their own by accident, and don't realize that its a bad thing, so they may want to share with others. It happens a lot between kids at that age. Its not to say let it happen, but no you were not sexually abused by her, nor did you sexually abuse anyone at that age. I hope that helps
Ataemommy
by on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:20 PM


Quoting marchantmom06:

No it's not.


Quoting Anonymous:

It's normal behavior.

Yes, it most absolutely is. Sexual experimentation begins at a VERY young age.

andreamarie
by Gold Member on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:22 PM
This.

Quoting marchantmom06:

Umm like what kind of things? Was she being abused at home? I don't think it ever crossed my mind at 6 or even 10 to stick something into my vagina....
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Thelmama
by Ruby Member on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:22 PM

Maybe get counseling for yourself, and ask what you should do, because honestly I have no idea on that one.

Quoting Anonymous:

I definitely felt bad about it . Still do. Still feels strange. Im still best friends with her. We never discuss it. I always wanted to ask if something bad ever happened to her...never had courage

Quoting Thelmama:

it is called sexually acting out, even if 6. Lots of kids experiment, BUT MOST kids do not do what happened here.  I worked in the child abuse field. One of the red flags for abuse was if a child sexually acted out.  Experimentation was defined, it did not include the scenario here.  The other child took a step or two past what is normal experimentation.


motherslove82
by Ruby Member on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:25 PM
In order for there to be abuse, there has to be an abuser and a victim. If you were to consider it abuse, then it would be just as likely that YOU were the abuser and she was the victim. I think it's more likely that it was just curious, unsupervised kids who took things to far. It's possible that SHE was being abused by someone else and that is where the idea came from.
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gapeach0513
by on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:25 PM

 I don't think so.  If you two were about the same age, it just sounds like two kids experimenting.  I don't think it's really considered abuse unless the offending party is taking advantage of the other person, either by force or abuse of power or having the "know-better" that the offended doesn't have, and it doesn't sound like that was the case.

It could be maybe she was being abused at home, and that's what inspired her to want to try those things with you, but I don't think what happened between the two of you is abuse.

Mommy2aKing
by on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:25 PM
I wouldn't worry you self and stress your head to greys at this point. Most children experimentation each to different levels but it doesn't sound like abuse to me.
marchantmom06
by on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:30 PM
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Show me where it says at 6 that penitration with many different objects is normal? No it's not. Looking, touching being curious is one thing. But wanting someone to stick things into you over and over is not normal.


Quoting Ataemommy:



Quoting marchantmom06:

No it's not.





Quoting Anonymous:

It's normal behavior.


Yes, it most absolutely is. Sexual experimentation begins at a VERY young age.


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Kimmie.Miller
by on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:36 PM
Well there is something that stands out in my mind - she went to a secluded place for privacy. Which means that she may have known that something wasn't right or it would be bad if a parent caught you all playing this game. It could be anything from being abused at home, accidentally seeing pornography on TV or a magazine, hearing about it, or being young and curious. I personally would talk to her and tell her how I'm feeling. She may say she was just young and confused or open up to you. You'll never gets answers if you don't ask the questions. My gut feeling about what i've been reading so far is that she had some sort of sexual contact - when young children have been touched inappropriately they masturbate because they don't know any better or why they have these new strange feelings.
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jb0520
by Platinum Member on Apr. 12, 2012 at 11:38 PM
I didn't even know things could go in my vagina at that age! I dont think thats normal!
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