I wish that I had waited

[Anonymous]

Some days I really wish that I had waited to have a child, my daughter (7) has so much fire that I can't stand it. It doesn't matter what I do she has a temper and some of the ugliest words come out of her mouth. She refuses to take responsibility for her actions it is always someone else's fault.

I know she is angry, but I am tired of defending her to everyone including her school and all I get back from her is shit in my face about how she hates me.

I feel like a failure and I somedays I just want to throw in the towel and send her to her dads (my ex) but I know  he would probably break her spirit.

[alwayskk]

Why is she so angry?

[jb0520]

How long ago did you and ex split?

[momoftwo0406]

Why is she angry? Have you taken her to the doctor? Have you taken her to a therapist? Why defend her if she is acting up and not give her punishments? You should never have to defend a child's behavior over and over.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

My ex and I split when she was 1, she doesn't remember ever living with him.

I have no idea why she is angry,I could guess but I don't even know if she knows that she is angry

I have taken her to the peds and a psychologist and both said she just is strong willed and is defiant possibly does not respect female authority but that she does not have add/adhd etc.

I can't even tell her the options for breakfast with out a mutiny, "All your food is BORING and you KNOW I HATE MILK!!!!"

I am OVER her ever changing food likes and dislikes, for 2 weeks she LOVES milk the next she is fake vomiting at dinner. I give her options Milk or Water?

She has a "talking issue" at school and I swear her teacher does not like her...

[Mandy575]

So what do the Dr's want you to do????

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

All they told me to do is to continue being consistent with her discipline and that it was good that half(my side) of her family is willing to take care of her.

They also said that it is a power struggle and that I need to put her more in her place then I do.

I am a SAHM and go to school full time 2 days a week so she always has someone at home.

[funnymom32]

I know I am going to get bashed for this but sometimes you need to break that little spirit for them to be able to function in the real world. She needs consistent consequences for her actions.   Is she in therapy??  If not, please get her in therapy.  Also, try Love and Logic.  It is a type of parenting style that works well with spirited children.  

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

We did therapy and he said that she is healthy and well loved and that she just is strong willed, and Ive read that book and many more.