Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

Mom Confessions Mom Confessions

My bad mom confession for the weekend........

Posted by   + Show Post

My daughter (11yo) tried out Friday for the middle school cheer squad and didn't make it. I honestly think I was more upset about it then she was, not because I wanted her to make it but because I hate seeing her upset. She is an AMAZING girl, smart, beautiful and all around good kid. This was her first time not getting what she wanted, she is an over achiever and is harder on herself then I could ever be.

Saturday morning I decided to cheer her up and have a girls day, I picked up her grandma and the three of us hit the mall. My daughter got a coach purse, coach wallet and a new pair of Sperry's. 

I know that isn't the right message to send to her, that spending money will make everything better but honestly it is how we deal with stuff in our family. I can remember having a bad day and my parents would take me shopping or pick me up from school with a present waiting in the car for me.

Honestly she is a great kid and has already achieved so much for her age and I hated seeing her upset, she had a great day and loves her new stuff and that makes me happy.

by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 12:47 AM
Replies (71-80):
DEEANNALAMB81
by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:24 PM

The cut off age for our local stuff is 12 and she will be 12 in June. This will be the first season she has set out since she was 5. But her brothers will both be playing so she will still have plenty of football games to go to.

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

Combining the grades into one team makes it especially hard on the younger kids! Usually the returning girls take up a lot of the spots then the girls who are older and have more experience get remaining spots. How about summer cheer through your local community, is that offered?


Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

That is hilarious that she is pushing the move, she's a determined girl and makes a great argument. You may have a future lawyer on your hands.

Thank you, we try. She is naturally a quite shy girl and cheering has helped her be more confident and better in large groups. She has been doing a spotted back handspring for a while and wasn't ready to do it solo at try outs. Her coach said she would work on tryout scenarios with her to get her ready.

There were 47 girls that tried out and they only took 12, it was weird too cause they didn't have a 7th grade and 8th grade squad they just did one. So we really only know of one 7th grader that made the squad, the rest were 8th graders. 

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

Like your dd, mine is straight a student, she is in 7th grade, taking 9th grade algebra, third year of Latin and all other advanced classes. She also already has scholarships for college and the other day she brought me a list of the highest rated high schools for college preparedness. She is pushing us to relocate to improve her education. She was in a Montessori school until recently and when she goes to h.s. We will move near better schools.

Good job on giving your dd everything she needs to be confident and succeed. As you know, her being nervous and unsure probably hurt her the most. How many girls didn't make the team? Maybe you could start up a secondary team for them! They could cheer for girls teams or less popular sports. With proper coaching they could be better than the other girls but if not at least they would have fun!





Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

She is in cheer and tumbling classes and was getting private lessons before try outs, she just wasn't ready or confident enough to do the back handsprings at try outs. She did her cartwheels and roundoffs and that just wasn't enough to make the team when the other girls were doing their back handsprings. She has already started planning on taking more classes (2x a week) so she can be ready for next years try outs, she hasn't given up. She is hard worker and knows hard work will help her get where she wants to be.


That is great your daughter is already thinking about college and what she wants to do, I wish more parents would start talking to their kids about college sooner. Good Luck to both of you!

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

How about getting her a private trainer or coach if cheerleading is important to her. With good training she will be better than most of the girls by tryouts next year. My 13 year old dd gets coached one on one by an ex pro softball player. She is trying to play in college and is amazing!







Aislinn
by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:26 PM
1 mom liked this

 Eh. I do not see the huge issue with shopping to cheer her up. Isn't that ingrained in most females DNA? Get bummed out, buy something? lol And there is always next year, Mama. Practice, practice, practice!

Barabell
by ~~CC~~ on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:29 PM
1 mom liked this

I'm sorry she didn't make the team.

The mother/daughter day sounds like it was fun.

gmadiane
by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:30 PM

sorry she did not make it

bellanoelsmom
by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:45 PM
Good, she may enjoy the break!


Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

The cut off age for our local stuff is 12 and she will be 12 in June. This will be the first season she has set out since she was 5. But her brothers will both be playing so she will still have plenty of football games to go to.

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

Combining the grades into one team makes it especially hard on the younger kids! Usually the returning girls take up a lot of the spots then the girls who are older and have more experience get remaining spots. How about summer cheer through your local community, is that offered?





Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

That is hilarious that she is pushing the move, she's a determined girl and makes a great argument. You may have a future lawyer on your hands.

Thank you, we try. She is naturally a quite shy girl and cheering has helped her be more confident and better in large groups. She has been doing a spotted back handspring for a while and wasn't ready to do it solo at try outs. Her coach said she would work on tryout scenarios with her to get her ready.

There were 47 girls that tried out and they only took 12, it was weird too cause they didn't have a 7th grade and 8th grade squad they just did one. So we really only know of one 7th grader that made the squad, the rest were 8th graders. 

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

Like your dd, mine is straight a student, she is in 7th grade, taking 9th grade algebra, third year of Latin and all other advanced classes. She also already has scholarships for college and the other day she brought me a list of the highest rated high schools for college preparedness. She is pushing us to relocate to improve her education. She was in a Montessori school until recently and when she goes to h.s. We will move near better schools.


Good job on giving your dd everything she needs to be confident and succeed. As you know, her being nervous and unsure probably hurt her the most. How many girls didn't make the team? Maybe you could start up a secondary team for them! They could cheer for girls teams or less popular sports. With proper coaching they could be better than the other girls but if not at least they would have fun!








Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

She is in cheer and tumbling classes and was getting private lessons before try outs, she just wasn't ready or confident enough to do the back handsprings at try outs. She did her cartwheels and roundoffs and that just wasn't enough to make the team when the other girls were doing their back handsprings. She has already started planning on taking more classes (2x a week) so she can be ready for next years try outs, she hasn't given up. She is hard worker and knows hard work will help her get where she wants to be.


That is great your daughter is already thinking about college and what she wants to do, I wish more parents would start talking to their kids about college sooner. Good Luck to both of you!

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

How about getting her a private trainer or coach if cheerleading is important to her. With good training she will be better than most of the girls by tryouts next year. My 13 year old dd gets coached one on one by an ex pro softball player. She is trying to play in college and is amazing!










Posted on CafeMom Mobile
DEEANNALAMB81
by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:46 PM

This was after school today, this is my oldest and youngest. It isn't a kids purse but it is small, not too flashy and fits just what she needs in it.

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

My dd said she could move in with her grandparents in Michigan or my uncle in S.C. (we live in Florida) where two of the top 5 schools are located. Number 11 is near our house and is very hard to get into but the school has tried to get her to go there since she was first tested for the gifted program.
Its funny that you would mention attorney. Dd's first grade teachers called her "the little attorney". According to them dd could tell them the sky was yellow on a beautiful day and after arguing her point for a few minutes she would even have them (the teachers) wondering how they could ever have thought the sky was blue. Its not always great to argue with her at home but she is a strong girl!
You may want to talk to the school and other parents about starting a JV squad next year so there are more spots available. It seems ridiculous that only a few girls get to experience cheerleading.
Have your dd watch you tube videos that teach cheering in her spare time. She may prefer learning at home to build her confidence in addition to her gymnastics. I want to see a pic of the purse too! I didn't know coach made kids bags. I always tell my girls, you can't leave the house until you accessorize!


Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

That is hilarious that she is pushing the move, she's a determined girl and makes a great argument. You may have a future lawyer on your hands.

Thank you, we try. She is naturally a quite shy girl and cheering has helped her be more confident and better in large groups. She has been doing a spotted back handspring for a while and wasn't ready to do it solo at try outs. Her coach said she would work on tryout scenarios with her to get her ready.

There were 47 girls that tried out and they only took 12, it was weird too cause they didn't have a 7th grade and 8th grade squad they just did one. So we really only know of one 7th grader that made the squad, the rest were 8th graders. 

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

Like your dd, mine is straight a student, she is in 7th grade, taking 9th grade algebra, third year of Latin and all other advanced classes. She also already has scholarships for college and the other day she brought me a list of the highest rated high schools for college preparedness. She is pushing us to relocate to improve her education. She was in a Montessori school until recently and when she goes to h.s. We will move near better schools.

Good job on giving your dd everything she needs to be confident and succeed. As you know, her being nervous and unsure probably hurt her the most. How many girls didn't make the team? Maybe you could start up a secondary team for them! They could cheer for girls teams or less popular sports. With proper coaching they could be better than the other girls but if not at least they would have fun!





Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

She is in cheer and tumbling classes and was getting private lessons before try outs, she just wasn't ready or confident enough to do the back handsprings at try outs. She did her cartwheels and roundoffs and that just wasn't enough to make the team when the other girls were doing their back handsprings. She has already started planning on taking more classes (2x a week) so she can be ready for next years try outs, she hasn't given up. She is hard worker and knows hard work will help her get where she wants to be.


That is great your daughter is already thinking about college and what she wants to do, I wish more parents would start talking to their kids about college sooner. Good Luck to both of you!

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

How about getting her a private trainer or coach if cheerleading is important to her. With good training she will be better than most of the girls by tryouts next year. My 13 year old dd gets coached one on one by an ex pro softball player. She is trying to play in college and is amazing!







Angela_Barlow
by Platinum Member on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:47 PM
Will you adopt me? I want a new purse and wallet:)
Posted on CafeMom Mobile
bellanoelsmom
by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:50 PM
Cute! If my purse didn't have at least four diapers, wipes and all my stuff I would use the purse. Your kids are adorable btw!


Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

This was after school today, this is my oldest and youngest. It isn't a kids purse but it is small, not too flashy and fits just what she needs in it.

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

My dd said she could move in with her grandparents in Michigan or my uncle in S.C. (we live in Florida) where two of the top 5 schools are located. Number 11 is near our house and is very hard to get into but the school has tried to get her to go there since she was first tested for the gifted program.

Its funny that you would mention attorney. Dd's first grade teachers called her "the little attorney". According to them dd could tell them the sky was yellow on a beautiful day and after arguing her point for a few minutes she would even have them (the teachers) wondering how they could ever have thought the sky was blue. Its not always great to argue with her at home but she is a strong girl!

You may want to talk to the school and other parents about starting a JV squad next year so there are more spots available. It seems ridiculous that only a few girls get to experience cheerleading.

Have your dd watch you tube videos that teach cheering in her spare time. She may prefer learning at home to build her confidence in addition to her gymnastics. I want to see a pic of the purse too! I didn't know coach made kids bags. I always tell my girls, you can't leave the house until you accessorize!





Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

That is hilarious that she is pushing the move, she's a determined girl and makes a great argument. You may have a future lawyer on your hands.

Thank you, we try. She is naturally a quite shy girl and cheering has helped her be more confident and better in large groups. She has been doing a spotted back handspring for a while and wasn't ready to do it solo at try outs. Her coach said she would work on tryout scenarios with her to get her ready.

There were 47 girls that tried out and they only took 12, it was weird too cause they didn't have a 7th grade and 8th grade squad they just did one. So we really only know of one 7th grader that made the squad, the rest were 8th graders. 

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

Like your dd, mine is straight a student, she is in 7th grade, taking 9th grade algebra, third year of Latin and all other advanced classes. She also already has scholarships for college and the other day she brought me a list of the highest rated high schools for college preparedness. She is pushing us to relocate to improve her education. She was in a Montessori school until recently and when she goes to h.s. We will move near better schools.


Good job on giving your dd everything she needs to be confident and succeed. As you know, her being nervous and unsure probably hurt her the most. How many girls didn't make the team? Maybe you could start up a secondary team for them! They could cheer for girls teams or less popular sports. With proper coaching they could be better than the other girls but if not at least they would have fun!








Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

She is in cheer and tumbling classes and was getting private lessons before try outs, she just wasn't ready or confident enough to do the back handsprings at try outs. She did her cartwheels and roundoffs and that just wasn't enough to make the team when the other girls were doing their back handsprings. She has already started planning on taking more classes (2x a week) so she can be ready for next years try outs, she hasn't given up. She is hard worker and knows hard work will help her get where she wants to be.


That is great your daughter is already thinking about college and what she wants to do, I wish more parents would start talking to their kids about college sooner. Good Luck to both of you!

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

How about getting her a private trainer or coach if cheerleading is important to her. With good training she will be better than most of the girls by tryouts next year. My 13 year old dd gets coached one on one by an ex pro softball player. She is trying to play in college and is amazing!










Posted on CafeMom Mobile
DEEANNALAMB81
by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 5:52 PM

Thank you.

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

Cute! If my purse didn't have at least four diapers, wipes and all my stuff I would use the purse. Your kids are adorable btw!


Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

This was after school today, this is my oldest and youngest. It isn't a kids purse but it is small, not too flashy and fits just what she needs in it.

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

My dd said she could move in with her grandparents in Michigan or my uncle in S.C. (we live in Florida) where two of the top 5 schools are located. Number 11 is near our house and is very hard to get into but the school has tried to get her to go there since she was first tested for the gifted program.

Its funny that you would mention attorney. Dd's first grade teachers called her "the little attorney". According to them dd could tell them the sky was yellow on a beautiful day and after arguing her point for a few minutes she would even have them (the teachers) wondering how they could ever have thought the sky was blue. Its not always great to argue with her at home but she is a strong girl!

You may want to talk to the school and other parents about starting a JV squad next year so there are more spots available. It seems ridiculous that only a few girls get to experience cheerleading.

Have your dd watch you tube videos that teach cheering in her spare time. She may prefer learning at home to build her confidence in addition to her gymnastics. I want to see a pic of the purse too! I didn't know coach made kids bags. I always tell my girls, you can't leave the house until you accessorize!





Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

That is hilarious that she is pushing the move, she's a determined girl and makes a great argument. You may have a future lawyer on your hands.

Thank you, we try. She is naturally a quite shy girl and cheering has helped her be more confident and better in large groups. She has been doing a spotted back handspring for a while and wasn't ready to do it solo at try outs. Her coach said she would work on tryout scenarios with her to get her ready.

There were 47 girls that tried out and they only took 12, it was weird too cause they didn't have a 7th grade and 8th grade squad they just did one. So we really only know of one 7th grader that made the squad, the rest were 8th graders. 

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

Like your dd, mine is straight a student, she is in 7th grade, taking 9th grade algebra, third year of Latin and all other advanced classes. She also already has scholarships for college and the other day she brought me a list of the highest rated high schools for college preparedness. She is pushing us to relocate to improve her education. She was in a Montessori school until recently and when she goes to h.s. We will move near better schools.


Good job on giving your dd everything she needs to be confident and succeed. As you know, her being nervous and unsure probably hurt her the most. How many girls didn't make the team? Maybe you could start up a secondary team for them! They could cheer for girls teams or less popular sports. With proper coaching they could be better than the other girls but if not at least they would have fun!








Quoting DEEANNALAMB81:

She is in cheer and tumbling classes and was getting private lessons before try outs, she just wasn't ready or confident enough to do the back handsprings at try outs. She did her cartwheels and roundoffs and that just wasn't enough to make the team when the other girls were doing their back handsprings. She has already started planning on taking more classes (2x a week) so she can be ready for next years try outs, she hasn't given up. She is hard worker and knows hard work will help her get where she wants to be.


That is great your daughter is already thinking about college and what she wants to do, I wish more parents would start talking to their kids about college sooner. Good Luck to both of you!

Quoting bellanoelsmom:

How about getting her a private trainer or coach if cheerleading is important to her. With good training she will be better than most of the girls by tryouts next year. My 13 year old dd gets coached one on one by an ex pro softball player. She is trying to play in college and is amazing!











DEEANNALAMB81
by on Apr. 16, 2012 at 10:02 PM

thank you.

Quoting gmadiane:

sorry she did not make it


Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

close Join now to connect to
other members!
Connect with Facebook or Sign Up Using Email

Already Joined? LOG IN