It sickens me so many say birth rape is not real! *UPDATE*

Um no. If I don't want it, he doesn't get it. I don't have to do a damn thing. It is not my job to put out whenever he asks. A husband can rape a wife. Wife says no man does it anyway...rape.
Quoting oriannawhitney:
I personally don't think a husband can rape his wife... it IS your job as a wife to fulfill your husbands sexual needs. If that's not something you want to do then don't get married.
As a mother I would let the doctor check me as often as needed to make sure my child was okay. I don't see why someone would fight that.

There is also implied consent as well. If the doc walks in and wants to check you for dilation and you don't say anything, but you open your legs, you've basically given nonverbal consent for him to do it. You don't physically have to say yes or no. Your actions said it for you.


Okay. Quick question. What if you consent solely to an internal exam and the provider does more- a membrane sweep, brings out an instrument and breaks you water, etc without tell you or asking for your consent? Is that an appropiate thing for a provider to do (don't mind the term, I really just want to discuss when, or if, at any point a woman reserves the right to say "no".)
Quoting Salsacookies:There is also implied consent as well. If the doc walks in and wants to check you for dilation and you don't say anything, but you open your legs, you've basically given nonverbal consent for him to do it. You don't physically have to say yes or no. Your actions said it for you.

Well, when you get admitted to the hospital, you sign a consent for treatment form which means the doctor's can do anything related to your treatment. You've already consented by signing that form giving the medical staff permission to do whatever they deem is necessary for your treatment.
Quoting louzannalady:Okay. Quick question. What if you consent solely to an internal exam and the provider does more- a membrane sweep, brings out an instrument and breaks you water, etc without tell you or asking for your consent? Is that an appropiate thing for a provider to do (don't mind the term, I really just want to discuss when, or if, at any point a woman reserves the right to say "no".)
Quoting Salsacookies:There is also implied consent as well. If the doc walks in and wants to check you for dilation and you don't say anything, but you open your legs, you've basically given nonverbal consent for him to do it. You don't physically have to say yes or no. Your actions said it for you.

Oh please, you really believe that happened? Propaganda. Could her husband not overpower the doctor? You're killing me. I can tell you this, if I were going through that, you better believe I would have been kicking the shit out of that doctor. I do not believe any of it happened.
Quoting louzannalady:
Did you read the links? The women said no. In one story she said no, so did her husband and doula, the doctor belittled her and kept checking her.
Quoting Anonymous:
I have to wonder what it is women think is going to happen when they go to the doctor when pregnant. I was fully aware that I would be examined. I was also fully aware of what the word no meant and how to say it. If you are not strong enough to stand up for what you want while pregnant, how on earth are you going to be strong enough to have a baby? I am sick of all of the crybaby crap out of all of these young moms who aren't getting their way. Boo freaking hoo.

wanting to sleep with him and having no choice are completely different. a woman has the right to say no if she doesn't want to have sex for any reason and if a man leaves because of that, he's not really a man. i have sex with SO pretty much whenever he wants it, but if there's a time where i'm not feeling it, it doesn't happen and he's ok with it. it's called respect. forcing your gf/DW to have sex with you is not respectful and it's appauling that you support that kind of behavior. there is no "wifely duty" that says i have to put out each and every time.
Quoting oriannawhitney:
... thats part of a marriage. If you don't want to sleep with him then you can't be upset when he steps out. That's my opinion. I wouldn't call it being a slave. When you go to work you have certain duties that are your job just as a wife has certain duties to her husband. It's not like husbands don't have certain duties to their wives too.
Quoting KitT.Kat:Wow. Wow. Just...wow.
I guess I didn't sign the same sex slave contract you did when I got married.
Quoting oriannawhitney:
I personally don't think a husband can rape his wife... it IS your job as a wife to fulfill your husbands sexual needs. If that's not something you want to do then don't get married.
- sha_lyn68
Ruby Member on Apr. 19, 2012 at 8:05 PMThose "rights" listed in your edit are only suggested guidlines for hospitals that are members of the AHA. They are not laws or rights. Even the AHA says that member hospitals are free to edit, simplify etc.