Dh and I had a good night last night. After I put the kids to bed we watched a movie on Netflix and cuddled on the couch. After the movie we went to bed. He kissed me goodnight in bed, after that I rolled over and pulled his arm around me. He kept rubbing against me like he wanted sex. I told him I was really tired, I had just started my period, ect. (And it's not like I deprive him. He does have a bit of a higher sex drive then I, but I had sex with him the night before and the night before that). Then he starts begging me. I told him I was really tired; why can't we just cuddle?
Then he screamed, "Because my dick is rock hard and I don't want it up against your ass. That is just cruel!" Then he rolled over in a huff. I put my arm around him and told him I was sorry... why are you being like this? ect. He just ignored me and pushed my arm off him. Then he stood up and said, "Well, I gotta take care of this." He walked out and slammed the door. I followed him downstairs. He was sitting at the computer smoking a cigarette. I was pissed by then. We had a really good night, I've never been mad at him for turning me down... It's not like I denied him just to be a bitch. I told him to come back to bed please. He said no. Then I asked him what he meant by "taking care of it." He smirked and said, "Well, I'm gonna put some porn on and take care of this problem that you don't want to fix."
I just started sobbing. He was just so cold when he said that. I felt like he was so angry at me for turning him down that he wanted to hurt me on a whole new level. That's not fucking fair. I understand that men have needs and everything, but he didn't have to rub it in my face like that. I don't have a huge problem with porn, but I am a little self conscience. he knows that, so he knew that would hurt me. I just went upstairs and cried and tried not to think about what he was doing downstairs. He never came back to bed either =(
This morning I was still furious with him and ignoring him. There was no way I could get everything off my chest and have anything solved before he had to work. He got mad at me, and told me that I make everything about me. That's it's not a a big deal. Most women wouldn't care about this... you're just self conscience. blah, blah.
So in this situation, weather you care about porn or not... Would this hurt you?