I'm bipolar and struggling with med compliance.**eta** *update**
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Now I'm rebuilding, getting to a healthy place.
My ds and I are happy.
But lately I have this circling thoughts that I should stop taking my meds.
I can't make it go away and I don't have anyone to speak to about it.
I question whether I really need them sometimes, and it scares me.
I wish there was a person I could check in with and just have them tell me "yes its stupid to stop! Take them!"
But its so embarrassing to need that.
On top of that, if I suddenly stop my pills I can have seizures.
Its so stupid and its hardest part of this illness.
Anyhow. That my dumb embarrassing shameful confession.
*edit*
To clarify: I am not epileptic. Anti-convulsants are used to treat bipolar disorder. Suddenly stopping them can cause seizures.
**eta2**
Thank you so much for all the replies.
I know it's the illness that puts these thoughts in my head, and I will be coming back to this post and reading through all of these replies should the thoughts arise.
I like my meds, I like what they do for me and how they make me feel.
Please read all of what I am about to post... and be strong mama! If you are looking for support there's a group called Psych 101 that is AWESOME!!! <3
Surviving As A Bipolar Person
The 5 Stages of Bipolar Grief
- Many of us when first diagnosed are downright relieved to finally have a name for what ails us. But our relief soon turns to denial once the full implications of the illness become evident. What this means is that as we come to understand how much of our core personality is driven by this illness, and once we settle into the routine of drug-taking and doctor's visits, the realization that life will never be the same as it was before begins to haunt and torment us into denying some, or all, of reality. This is a dangerous but necessary time for us all to pass through. Accept it for what it is, an essential stage of coming to terms with being bipolar. Just be aware that this and the next stage are the times when you will be most inclined to do something you may regret later on. Don't drink heavily, don't quit taking your medications, don't quit seeing your psychiatrist and/or therapist, and if possible keep some sort of safety net in place in terms of support. If you crash hard, let there be someone there who cares and can help you hold on till stability returns.
Denial
- Hot on the heels of denial comes
anger. You will be furious with life, yourself, the past, missed
chances, screw-ups, your friends, your significant others and your
physician. No one will escape totally unscathed from the sphere of the
bipolar person who has yet to come to terms with his/her circumstances. BE ANGRY!
You have a reason and a right to be. Anger in itself isn't a bad thing
so long as you use it to empower yourself rather than to disempower or
to harm others or yourself. The crucial point is that you understand and
acknowledge your anger. Own it, accept it, and make it yours to the
extent necessary to get through it. Is this permission to wallow in it
indefinitely? No way! But you cannot move onward unless you've dealt
with this critical aspect of learning to survive with a brain chemistry
that will betray you at the first opportunity. Be angry; it's ok, and
you need no one else's permission to be so.
If you are a family member, significant other, child, or friend of a manic-depressive please go here for some advice on how to help them through this difficult time.
Anger
- Of all the many things you will feel as you try to adjust to being officially bipolar, guilt is perhaps the most burdensome and difficult to get a grip on. There's guilt over your past obnoxious behaviors and overt sexual indiscretions, the way you've treated family and friends, the lack of attention or care you've given your children, the inability to maintain jobs or relationships and the nagging self-doubt about your own sense of worth. But despite all the foregoing, remember this, in fact, make it your personal motto: GUILT IS A WASTED EMOTION. It comes from an exaggerated sense of responsibility aimed at the wrong kinds of things and for all the wrong reasons. Sometimes it comes from all those do's and don't's you've had drilled into you by mom, dad, school and the church. Forget them, unless they were principles you personally chose after very careful thought, they don't matter now and they never did. What matters now is the future you choose to follow. From this point on, the choice and the responsibility are all yours. That's a little intimidating, but it's also a very freeing kind of thought as well. Try it on for size; you might come to appreciate it. If nothing else, it unties that old guilt-knot in one's stomach.
Guilt:
- Probably the most difficult and depressing aspect of this disorder is encountered after having passed through the tustle with denial and guilt -- it's the point when mere resignation settles on your shoulder like Poe's black raven quoting its dirge of "Nevermore." Nevermore the euphoric highs of hypomania. Nevermore the super bursts of creative energy. Nevermore the ability to do the work of ten others, stay up at the local bistro all night, and still write or paint until time for work the next morn. Nevermore the quick punning and life-of-the-party charisma. Nevermore.... yes, for this we must (and do) mourn, for the drugs that stabilise us will exact a price in return and this is part of it. So do mourn for the parts of your personality that may become muted or disappear entirely; it's ok to lay black roses at the feet of the drugs you must take. But then you must move on by accepting that: 1) you will experience a sense of resignation regarding your situation 2) you will mourn and suffer severe depression at feeling forced into that resignation, 3)you will occasionally (or often even) entertain the notion of dumping your drugs down the toilet (and you may, but please think it through first), and finally, 4)you will expect life to get immediately better and you will be disappointed at the fact that it doesn't. I can only urge you with all my heart to ride this tough time out. This coming to grips with a new you takes a very long time. Some things will improve very quickly, but others won't, and new things will pop up to grieve you. We bipolars are not usually patient sorts, but for your life and well-being, please try to be patient with this process of adaptation.
Resignation:
Reconciliation
Ok, you've been very brave and you've made it through the 4 previous stages; now you can breathe a bit easier for the worst is definitely over. Hopefully, as you've reconciled your past with the rather scarey present, you've learned a bit about yourself and discovered a well of strength within that will carry you through the ups and downs that most certainly will come your way in the future. During this last phase you will continue the process of adjusting your medications, settling in with a good doctor, and developing a strong support network. If you aren't doing these things then please follow the links just mentioned and see why you should. In fact follow them even if you are because chances are you'll still learn something useful.
This is also the period during which you'll spend a great deal of time thinking about where you end and the drugs begin. Mixed in with these considerations will be an ongoing quest to find the real you underneath and/or cohabiting with the bipolar you. Sound peculiar? It should, but ask any bipolar of some standing and you will find that all have spent a good bit of time trying to figure out which of their cherished personality traits is due to their being bipolar and which is due to some unique, core "self". I've always considered myself a bit of a loner and just plain damned different from others. Now I wonder whether it wasn't my bipolar self protecting me from a world that was always just a bit too much. All of this questioning is an essential part of a process called acceptance. When you have accepted that there is no magic cure for what you have, and that you will have it forever, you can move on to making your life as fulfilling and stable as it can be. Not until you reach a point where you are both reconciled to your illness and accepting of the treatment it mandates can you really begin to grow and live a full life. The road is fraught with peril, but the destination is certainly worth the risk.
im bi-polar to.. my doc put me on 5 daily doses of xanax for over 3 yrs now.. only problem is my mother takes them to and she's convinced herself since she was labeled first she gets more so she steals 1/3 of mine each month. last time it even sent me in seizures and caused me to break my nose...dont be ashamed or nething about taking meds its natural
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