See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
4 years ago I made an agreement with my best friend. He'd let me have his baby and he'd help take care of it if we NEVER told his wife. I thought it was a great deal because I was 33 and no suitable husband in sight and my bio clock was ticking. But financially i wasnt ready to raise a baby alone. He had kept up his end of the deal but the more I hear about his miserable marriage the more I want his wife to know about our DD. I want him to be a family with us. He has no kids with his wife. I need ideas to help her find out the truth.
Update. He called this morning like he always does. And confirmed he will be over tonight to see me and dd. I'm going to make the lasagna he loves and after dd goes to bed i will try to bring up the idea of him and me and dd as a real family. I don't know how to do it so ill have to just go with what feels right at the time.
Update 2. So he came over for dinner and he noticed something was up almost immediately. Thats the kind of connection we have. After DD was asleep we went in the bedroom and I just blurted out how I'd been feeling and what I wanted and he just sat there for a moment looking spaced out. And then he said thats what hes wanted for a long time but I just seemed so happy with what we had. I cried and he held me, then we ended up making love for a very long time, so long that he called his wife and said he wouldn't be home. He stayed the night and got up with DD so I could sleep a little. Then we both left for work. But now I haven't heard from him all day. I'm trying not to to freak out because this isn't like him. I really hope he's ok.
Info added since people can't be bothered to read replies. He owns his own business and has family money so it is easy for him to give DD the money she needs every month without the wife noticing. The business is the reason shes used to him being gone a lot. Running a business is a 24/7 job. What she doesnt know is 2 years ago he hired a right hand man who takes care of a lot so he can spend time with us. Again, he has no kids with his wife.
Update 3. By midnight I was thinking about just showing up at his house because I had only gotten one text from him telling me he would call me later. Then nothing. I couldn't sleep at all so I was watching a movie when he called. He sounded like death and just asked if I was awake and he'd be over shortly. I wanted to throw up. 2 hours later he shows up drunk and holding a bag and his work satchel. He didn't say anything at all to me he just went to the couch and laid down, telling me he didn't want to talk right now. I ended up taking half a sleeping pills because I wanted to go into the living room and shake him. In the morning I got up and he was up with dd eating breakfast. I asked him if the bag had his clothes and he said yes, but didn't say anything else. Then he left for work.