There are many women on here who feel every family should have a SAHP. Many of these women are also militantly against PA. One user comes to mind, and since I can't call her out by name, I will simply say she considers herself an elitest.
My question is for those who think every mom should be a SAHM. If in order to be a SAHM, one has to use PA to get by, do you still think it's right?
I personally don't. I don't have any issues with PA. This time last year, I was using it myself. I also don't have any issues with being a SAHM, if that is your desire, and you can afford it. However, it shouldn't be the job of the government and tax payers to support YOUR family while you sit home with your kids.
I personally feel the welfare system needs to be reformed, in many ways. But one of the main things I think needs to change is the habit of enabling SAHMs, and making them feel it is their RIGHT to be home with their kids. I think if you go to apply for PA, and there is one working parent, and you still qualify, the other parent should be required to get at least a part time job. For those who say they wouldn't be able to afford childcare-that same office that gives you your foodstamps also provides childcare assistance.
I honestly feel that short of extenuating circumstances (a disabled parent, a special needs child, a deployed husband), there is no excuse to be a SAHM if you have to buy your groceries with your EBT card.
What's sad is most don't get to choose
Quoting briansmommy2010:Yes, material material material...but it was also much more than that. We would have all been MISERABLE if my mom was a SAHM. She would have been unhappy, and therefore we would have been unhappy. She has made a living out of helping children find permanent families. I'm very proud to say that. I wouldn't be proud to say that I came home to an after school snack every day, and a miserable mother.
What's sad is that people are expected to follow ONE person's standard of how a family should run. If you want to be a SAHM, good for you. I would never be one, even if I hit the lottery. Part of my happiness involves working, and I won't give that up.
Quoting gum.drop:
Material material material...
All I'm saying is those things should be obtainable with one income , it is in other countries.... We have horribly unfair wages and the ration of what executives make to was the base employees make is sad.
People should be able to have the option for one parent to stay home and still have the kind of fulfilled life you described.
What's sad is most people don't get to choose, have both parents working and still will never have the life you describe.
Quoting briansmommy2010:Why is it sad? Both of my parents worked growing up. It gave me the opportunity to go to a great high school. It gave my sisters both the opportunity to have their dream weddings. It gave my parents the opportunity to own the beach house my mom had wanted since she was a little girl. It gave us the opportunity to have many fun family vacations.
Sure, we would have gotten by on one income, but the extras were very nice, and the work ethic I learned from watching my parents work is something that can't be replaced.
Quoting gum.drop:
But that's sad isn't it..... Families shoul have that option. It's sad two har to work to survive in our country.
Being a SAHM for the past 5 yrs has made me
- briansmommy2010
on Apr. 22, 2012 at 9:55 PM