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Your hubby is dying....

Anonymous
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If your hubby was dying from something that makes them look horrible (not like himself) and he went downhill fast.  He is really thin (basically skin and bones) and he is "out of it" for the most part and doesn't recognize people.  You know it would upset your kids to see him in the condition he is in.  He has maybe a day or two to live.  Would you take your kids (8 and younger) to see him?  Or would you have them remember him the way he was?

I am not in this situation, but my husbands cousin is, and she is thinking of not taking her kids to see him.

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:43 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:44 PM
I would absolutely take them. They deserve to say goodbye to their father.
iluv2meow
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:44 PM

I would let the kids decide knowing his condition

metalmommaof3
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:45 PM
I couldnt live with my self not giving my babies a chance to say good bye to their daddy
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SarahLizyB
by Gold Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:45 PM
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It would be up to my son
metalhealthmom
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:45 PM
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I would take them but warn them beforehand.
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spastic_poodle
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:45 PM
I would still take them. People need closure to move on with life.
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Not_A_Native
by Ruby Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:45 PM

I would absolutely take them.  I was not allowed to see my grandfather in the hospital because of my parents reasoning that the tubes and wires would "upset" me (I was 8).  It upset me much MORE never being able to say goodbye.

MIA0223
by Emerald Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:46 PM
Yes
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msm67
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:46 PM

That young, I wouldn't. If they were older, I would discuss it with them and let them decide.

       


mamaistheword87
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 9:46 PM

Dying and illness is part of life.  They should be exposed to it, and see their father to have closure.  AND attend the funeral

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