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I live in a motel. :'( Ask me (just about) anything.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
No, I am not proud of it, hence anonymous. Let the questioning commence.

ETA: Since these seem to common questions, here are my answers.

Why can't you save?

I pay $290 per week which is $1160 8 months per year and $1450 the other 4 months. I spent $12 per week washing and drying clothes.(I just started washing by hand so I'm saving $4 now, which will save me 208 per year.) That is $48 8 months and $60 the other 4, which is now $32 I months and $40 the other 4. I receive $300 in foodstamps every month and I spend a total of $400 per month, so that is $100 out of pocket. Keep in mind that I did not receive foodstamps the whole two years. I went a year without it as our income became too high. My dh has chronic headaches due to a medical issue he has. We are always buying aspirin, naproxen or ibprophen for those. He is on an anti-seizure medicine that is really expensive, to get refills, he has to pay full price every month and go see his neurosurgeon to get an mri and cat scan to check his brain and Vp shunt. Our boss is nit picky when it comes to stains or tears on our uniform and every two months we buy a new shirt, hat and apron and every 4 months we buy a new pair of slip resistant shoes. The price of those items are taken out of our checks in installment plans. We also have life insurance taken out of our checks which is about $5 total in case something happens to one of us. Therefore, we can't save. If we had a cheaper place, it would be no problem saving money, but we are stuck in a rut with seemingly no way out. We stopped paying for our prepaid phone so long ago, I sometimes forget that thing sitting on my table is a phone. My kids don't know what candy or Mcdonald's are. We don't drink soda or alcohol. We don't eat chip, candy, cookies or any other junk food. I will admit that dh and I were smokers, but we both cut down on our cigarettes slowly over time until we were able to quit for good. We get what we need not what we want. I miss not worrying about money, I miss being able to splurge on something I want. I miss being able to buy my kids an outfit or a toy. Their clothes are stained and some are getting holes. Soon, I will have no choice but buy them some. My kids hardly have any toys, my mom buys one every blue moon, but most are at her house which is near impossible to get to. I didn't really want to go in detail about all this, but I guess people need to see exactly where we stand financially.

Why?

Dh temporarily lost his job and I was not able to float rent by myself. We were evicted. We both work now, but we don't make enough to save money.

Have you applied for public housing/section 8?

Not taking applications at this time for waiting lists.

Call churches.

I do every month. Always the same answer, sorry no funds. I will be calling back to see if they could give me a job doing something for them.
Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:18 PM
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ChunkyMonkey25
by Silver Member on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:41 PM

Do they leave the light on for you?

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:42 PM
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The room had them and roaches when we first moved in, but we made sure that they took steps to get rid of them. We've been bedbug/roach free for a while now.

Quoting Anonymous:

Do you worry about bedbugs?

mamabirch88
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:43 PM
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Have you been in the same motel the whole 2 years? I only ask because most of the hotels around here will not allow you to stay more than few weeks at a time.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:45 PM
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$290 per week. No safety concerns. It's like a little community here. Friendly neighbors, quiet neighborhood. There are quite a few long term residents here.

Quoting moosesmom:

How much is it? Do you have safety concerns? Or do you generally feel safe?
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:46 PM
Thanks.

Quoting Anonymous:

Im sorry hun, it sucks to be in a place where you just seem to pedal & spin in place. :( good luck!




Quoting Anonymous:

4 and almost 3(turns 3 in June).


They think it's home, they don't understand that this is not the norm.


We've been here two years. I don't know how much longer. We can't save money and no option for weekly rent on apartments or houses.





Quoting Anonymous:

We had to stay in a hotel for two Weeks waiting for our house to be ready-it SUCKED!!!!







How old are your kids? How do they feel about it? How long-how much longer?

CayShek
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:46 PM
I'm sorry hun! You seem very strong :)
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NDADanceMom
by on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:46 PM

Wouldnt rent be cheaper?  We have to say in a hotel on friday and its nearly $300 a night. 

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:47 PM
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No, I like to purr. Lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

do you like to meow?

>(o.o)< meowzing

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:48 PM
Yes, that is one plus.

Quoting MrsRinehart2010:

atleast you guys are making the best of it and still being a family!


Quoting Anonymous:

Yes. I miss the kids having their own rooms. We tried making it more private with the divider, but it doesn't help much. We go for walks all the time to get out of the room and will go swimming when the pool opens next month. Thanks.


Quoting MrsRinehart2010:


no judgement Im just curious if it drives you insane being in small space all the time? i go crazy in my house I dont think I could do it but I would if I had to. Hopefully things get better for you soon!



Anonymous
by Anonymous 8 on Apr. 25, 2012 at 10:48 PM

Quoting Anonymous:

No, I like to purr. Lol.

Quoting Anonymous:

do you like to meow?

>(o.o)< meowzing


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