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I abuse my children and neglect my husband..come on in bashers! I'm ready for you! Update!

Posted by on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:30 PM
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Let's see, where to start. Guess I'll start with spanking. I am a firm believer in spanking. I started spanking my oldest (now 3) when he started crawling. (if you can call in spanking anyway) It got his attention if he was trying to get into something he shouldn't have. And it made him remember. I say if you can call it spanking because he was obviously still in a diaper, and all it really was was a swat on the diaper, so the sound got his attention, he didn't feel it. Going to hell for that one! Let's see who can keep count of how many thing I'm going to hell for, or that makes me a bad mother in the eyes of all these "super moms" that are apparently perfect.

I let my oldest CIO when he was a baby and learning to sleep on his own.

I let me 6 week old CIO already. (note, he's done and asleep within 2-3 minutes when he does)

I don't religiously BF my 6 week old. He is getting formula throughout the day as well.

I didn't BF my 3 year old past 4 weeks old.

I have no problem with my children wearing a shirt that has the word titties on it.

My SO has a t-shirt with strippers on poles on it that says "I support single moms". (his anniversary present last year from me tsk tsk)

My SO works 35-40 hours a week, and when he gets home from work he is EXPECTED to give me 30-60 minutes of "me time" from the children.

My SO cooks dinner on the days he gets off work in the afternoon.

If he doesn't go into work early in the morning I have him get up and make breakfast for us.

Let's see..I probably missed some things. This is basically a S/O of just about every post I've seen in this group since I joined. I thought this site was supposed to have mom's supporting other mom's on it. Not a bunch of uptight "perfect, helicopter, never makes any mistakes" women putting other women down all the time.

 

Oh yeah!! My 3 year old was eating mashed potatoes (instant, so zero lumps) when he was only a couple of months old!

So, who can tell me how many things I'm going to hell for / make me a horrible mommy?

Love Ya All! blowing kisses

Okay, I think it was around about page 13 that my point finally started getting across to people. And I want to thank everyone that's commented and said that "gasp" they let their kids be kids. They play outside, get hurt, receive discipline, and are growing up to be well adjusted self respecting adults!

I forgot to mention, I'm a SAHM, and my house looks a hot mess right now. And ya know what! I don't clean it by myself! In fact! On the weekends the boys go to grandma's for the day so SO and I can clean...TOGETHER!! I cannot fathom why women think their men don't have to do anything around the house just because they work. I'm sorry, well, not really, I don't care what anyone says, being a SAHM is a full time job as well. And if done properly (depending on the amount of kids you have and what ages) your house will not always be put back into perfect order by the end of the night or when hubby gets home. Because .. god forbid .. that means you were actually playing with your kids! Maybe you had to go to the store? Or an emergency may have come up and you had to drop the kids off with someone and rush to said emergency?

Anyway, this is probably the last time I'll be able to get on till bedtime (midnight), so I'll reply to the stupidities, one's that make me laugh, and serious people, at that time.

Oh dear me, I almost forgot. One of SO's favorite shirts to wear "do something with your life, get me a beer" I'm sure that'll PO a few.

 

Okay, I do have to put one slightly important thing out there. For everyone that's saying I'm just a lazy fuck and that's why my house is dirty, I'll clue you on a little something. NONE OF YOU KNOW WHY MY HOUSE LOOKS THE WAY IT DOES. We live with my father, so its actually his house, we're lucky enough to have my old room, and the "den" as our son's bedroom. In one year we lost 3 family members, and EVERYTHING that the 3 of them owned, wound up coming to us. I have to go through it all, BY MYSELF, while watching the kids all day, and trying to keep the house as clean as I can, and decide what stays and what goes, to the trash or donations.

GET A FUCKING CLUE AND FIGURE OUT WHAT THIS POST WAS ACTUALLY ABOUT!!!

We all raise our children the way WE see fit as their parents. The point was, this website is supposed to be here so we can help/support other moms when we need it. I see posts that people put up, where they're asking for help directly in the title line, and damn near every comment they get is "You're a horrible mother. You're going to hell. You're kids will never love you. You shouldn't have had children. You should be fixed." Where in the fuck is the advice and help?

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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:32 PM
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Poor baby is still learning to trust, and mom's letting him down.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:32 PM
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If your confident in the way that you parent, why the need to defend it?

VintageWife
by Gold Member on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:33 PM
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<---proud helicopter mom

For real though, I don't know if you're going to hell or not, but your choices are the opposite of mine. It has nothing to do with your eternal soul though so I don't understand how that figures in.

bmw29
by spitfire_bobbie on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:34 PM
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I don't have a problem with any of that.
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lauraschatz
by on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:34 PM
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Oh Wow, you are gonna BURN honey! I can almost hear you sizzling already. Wait I think I smell smoke! ;)
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m3lissa_16
by Melissa on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:35 PM

Egh. I do things many freaks would find questionable. 

kellieknits
by on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:36 PM
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If you burn, would you be terribly offended if we roast marshmallows over you? Cause marshmallows kick ass.
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jackieb2811
by Silver Member on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:36 PM

We ALL raise our kids different! No need for bashing! Your kids obviously learned from what you did and your dh is fine with his role and what is expected so that is fine.

Would I spank my kids that young no but there is a difference in spanking and swatting and on a diaper! Yeah he was probably just like" hey what was that" and his attention was diverted. Mashed potatoes for mine would have been bad for my twins that little they threw up a lot I would be afraid that them throwing up something that thick would have made them choke so I waited until about 7 months.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:36 PM
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Instant mashed potatoes? Letting a 6 week old CIO? You want other moms to support this stupidity? 

wrensong
by Pagan Mother on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:38 PM
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 Your family, your choice.

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