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We are getting a divorce because my husband can't support us

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Now don't jump to any conclusions. I've been married for 4 years. With him for 8 years. He has always been a hard working guy, great guy. This past year has went down hill for us. He lost his job 2 years ago but he found work as a construction worker. Its not a great job but it pays the bills with help from my work.The past year he has not been workign hardly any. He doesn't try to find work and when he does he is an ass to the other workers so they don't want him working with them.He's lazy. Some days he won't get up for work. I'm tired of it. We had to get on PA because he isn't doing anything. When he's home he bitches and complains about EVERYTHING. When he was the main bread winnner his only job was to take out the trash and help out with yard work. He does't even want to do that anymore! He says that my kids should be doing it even though they have their own chores. He dosen't pick up after himself, he won't even mow the lawn without it being big deal. If he doesn't get to lay on the couch or in bed all day then the whole day is spent arguing about what me and my kids don't do. 

So yes we are getting a divorce. I won't deal with him putting me and my kids down while he is 10 times more lazy. His mom is being such a bitch about it. She thinks I'm divorcing him just because our finances aren't what they used to be. That I only used him for his money. HA! 

Posted by Anonymous on Apr. 28, 2012 at 8:49 PM
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Sunshine2plus2
by Platinum Member on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:20 PM

 No  but then again maybe I dont give a crap. Leave him then move on! Whatever your life not mine!

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Sunshine2plus2:

 Yeah I would say he is depressed. What is stopping you from working and supporting him for awhile?!?!

did you read? I have been working this whole time. I work mon-fri plus some weekends to suppot him. I've been working ever since I met him and even stepped up my game when he lost his job. It's been a little over a year and you think I should support him while he doesn't help at home and when he does he complains and bitches about how me and my kids don't do anything? Really? 

 


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:20 PM


Quoting Anonymous:

Can't say I blame you. Make sure you find a way to get child support though. 

We don't have any kids together so after we get a divorce, i will no longer have any ties to him

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:21 PM

lol okay..if you don't care then you don't have to reply..

Quoting Sunshine2plus2:

 No  but then again maybe I dont give a crap. Leave him then move on! Whatever your life not mine!

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Sunshine2plus2:

 Yeah I would say he is depressed. What is stopping you from working and supporting him for awhile?!?!

did you read? I have been working this whole time. I work mon-fri plus some weekends to suppot him. I've been working ever since I met him and even stepped up my game when he lost his job. It's been a little over a year and you think I should support him while he doesn't help at home and when he does he complains and bitches about how me and my kids don't do anything? Really? 

 


opal10161973
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:22 PM

Well, if he hasn't worked in a year- that's one less mouth to feed and utilities to pay for.  Sorry, but it's true.

Quoting britni11:

Quoting CherylAnne9:

Wow...um I am sorry your so up set but it sounds to me that he might be depressed and diffinatly not in an encouraging enviorment.  My husband has lost several jobs and it is a HUGE hit on the "male provider ego".  Its not easy.  And I am sorry but this is  a pathetic reason to get a divorce.  Life sucks but what happened to better or worse?  How often do you tell him you love him?  Thank him?  Thank him for the little things that may mean nothing to you but can still encourage him.  If he stops feeling like a failure and being put down nonstop I am willing to bet things would change. Good luck. 




I agree, figure out how to help him and your relationship. We have had financial difficulties the past 5 years, I don't see how divorcing him will solve your finances. It will be worse.


Sunshine2plus2
by Platinum Member on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:22 PM

 Just to laugh at our peoples craziness! lol

Quoting Anonymous:

lol okay..if you don't care then you don't have to reply..

Quoting Sunshine2plus2:

 No  but then again maybe I dont give a crap. Leave him then move on! Whatever your life not mine!

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Sunshine2plus2:

 Yeah I would say he is depressed. What is stopping you from working and supporting him for awhile?!?!

did you read? I have been working this whole time. I work mon-fri plus some weekends to suppot him. I've been working ever since I met him and even stepped up my game when he lost his job. It's been a little over a year and you think I should support him while he doesn't help at home and when he does he complains and bitches about how me and my kids don't do anything? Really? 

 


 

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:25 PM

I do get sad about the whole situation but then I realize that he just makes me miserable all the tiem. I will miss who he used to be. i will miss having someone at home. I will hate having to go back to being a single mom but I just can't deal with him anymore. 

Quoting LuvCoopins:

:( your story makes me so sad...the depression will make him that way and refuse to want help but once he got the help he would be so much better. I wish there was some way to get him to go for you. I feel so bad for you and your situation.

Are you sad about it? Will you miss him? If so, Im sure you are trying anything and everything to get him to go to counseling...




Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting LuvCoopins:

Def sounds like he has depression...have u thought about having him see a doctor before you divorce?

i've asked him to see a counselor but he refuses. 


Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:26 PM


Quoting britni11:

Quoting CherylAnne9:

Wow...um I am sorry your so up set but it sounds to me that he might be depressed and diffinatly not in an encouraging enviorment.  My husband has lost several jobs and it is a HUGE hit on the "male provider ego".  Its not easy.  And I am sorry but this is  a pathetic reason to get a divorce.  Life sucks but what happened to better or worse?  How often do you tell him you love him?  Thank him?  Thank him for the little things that may mean nothing to you but can still encourage him.  If he stops feeling like a failure and being put down nonstop I am willing to bet things would change. Good luck. 




I agree, figure out how to help him and your relationship. We have had financial difficulties the past 5 years, I don't see how divorcing him will solve your finances. It will be worse.

I'm not divorcing him to better my finances...

Elle.tea.22
by Ruby Member on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:26 PM
How can a girl want to have sex with a guy like that? Frankly if you don't want him in any way shape or form you're doing the right thing. By not wasting his time and for yourself because you aren't settling.
Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:27 PM

You think someone getting a divorce is funny? You think me and my kids living with this ass hole is funny? That just makes you pathetic. 

Quoting Sunshine2plus2:

 Just to laugh at our peoples craziness! lol

Quoting Anonymous:

lol okay..if you don't care then you don't have to reply..

Quoting Sunshine2plus2:

 No  but then again maybe I dont give a crap. Leave him then move on! Whatever your life not mine!

Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting Sunshine2plus2:

 Yeah I would say he is depressed. What is stopping you from working and supporting him for awhile?!?!

did you read? I have been working this whole time. I work mon-fri plus some weekends to suppot him. I've been working ever since I met him and even stepped up my game when he lost his job. It's been a little over a year and you think I should support him while he doesn't help at home and when he does he complains and bitches about how me and my kids don't do anything? Really? 

 


 


LuvCoopins
by on Apr. 28, 2012 at 9:28 PM
I completely understand...you are a strong woman...good luck to you :)

Quoting Anonymous:

I do get sad about the whole situation but then I realize that he just makes me miserable all the tiem. I will miss who he used to be. i will miss having someone at home. I will hate having to go back to being a single mom but I just can't deal with him anymore. 

Quoting LuvCoopins:

:( your story makes me so sad...the depression will make him that way and refuse to want help but once he got the help he would be so much better. I wish there was some way to get him to go for you. I feel so bad for you and your situation.



Are you sad about it? Will you miss him? If so, Im sure you are trying anything and everything to get him to go to counseling...









Quoting Anonymous:


Quoting LuvCoopins:

Def sounds like he has depression...have u thought about having him see a doctor before you divorce?

i've asked him to see a counselor but he refuses. 


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