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How would you feel if you went to a babyshower and then found out....

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That this is the girls 4th one for the same baby...so I'm not a huge fan of one of my best friends wives. Him and I have been really close since high-school, so whatever I am nice to her because I know how much he loves her. So I was really excited when I was invited to her baby shower. She was registered at baby R us, and most of the things she picked were very expensive. I ended up spending about 80$ on her gift. So while I'm at the baby shower I over heard someone say " I don't know where she is even going to put all her gift, this is the 4th shower she has had." I casually ask my friend and he said yep, one for family, one for work friends, one for her friends, one for his friends. I was kinda shocked, I have never heard of that before. Also I don't have a lot of money and I wanted to help them out, if I would have known this was her 4th shower I wouldn't have spent so much..but nothing I can do now. How would you have felt?
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by on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:07 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:37 AM
No big deal to me.

I had 70 people at my couples shower - is that offensive?
superwoman8977
by Gold Member on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:38 AM

My 1st baby I had 4 showers.  My co workers threw me one, my family, my friends and then my church,.  I dont see it as a big deal.

perezamberly
by on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:38 AM
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I would feel the exact same way you feel. That's really stupid to have multiple showers just because you can. My husband is stationed in Texas and my family is in Oregon so I was going to have two. One with family back home and one with friends here, which in the military life that's very common to do. However, I chose not to do that because it just felt weird
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bluesky51201
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:39 AM
I'm not arguing, I'm just curious. Sometimes its hard to get everyone together and I can't see the difference between 50 people at one shower or 50 spread out over smaller events. I couldn't expect all of my family to fly to Alaska and I couldn't expect my friends to fly to my home state. Sometimes there are circumstances that prevent one huge shower for everyone.


Quoting 3xangel:

How is having 4 baby showers NOT being greedy? <---- don't answer that. I don't feel like going back and forth about it. I think it's being greedy and you don't. Different opinions.



Quoting bluesky51201:

How is it greedy? People choose to throw showers, no one is forced. It seems like each person was only invited to one so its not grabby. I had three showers and felt blessed and loved that so many people wanted to celebrate our baby. Two of them were groups back home that took it upon themselves to have a party and give my baby things even though I couldn't be there.






Quoting 3xangel:

I think that's ridiculous and greedy. I would take the gift back and not go to the baby shower.


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Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:39 AM
Greedy if she threw them herself.....blessed if others threw,them for her

Quoting 3xangel:

You telling your story doesn't change my opinion that 4 baby showers are ridiculous and seems greedy.



Quoting AmyG1976:

so she should of had one with all those ppl at it? would that make a difference in the end nope. lol not greedy you dont ask for showers and beg ppl to attend those throwing them want to do it. I threw my sister one I believe someone else did too I was not upset someone else wanted to give her one instead of all coming to the one I had in fact lol it was less ppl I had to pay to feed and what not.

Quoting 3xangel:

How is having 4 baby showers NOT being greedy? <---- don't answer that. I don't feel like going back and forth about it. I think it's being greedy and you don't. Different opinions.





Quoting bluesky51201:

How is it greedy? People choose to throw showers, no one is forced. It seems like each person was only invited to one so its not grabby. I had three showers and felt blessed and loved that so many people wanted to celebrate our baby. Two of them were groups back home that took it upon themselves to have a party and give my baby things even though I couldn't be there.










Quoting 3xangel:

I think that's ridiculous and greedy. I would take the gift back and not go to the baby shower.




VintageWife
by Gold Member on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:39 AM
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I understand two different showers, but 4 is ridiculous and she is using people for more gifts. There is no reason that his and her friends as well as work friends couldn't be combined. One for family and one for all other friends could have worked just fine.

frankiesma530
by Platinum Member on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:40 AM

 4th?? 

jnttd
by on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:40 AM
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And for the people saying she's not greedy since she didn't throw the showers herself, I still think that's bullshit. If four different people wanted to throw me showers I would ask if they would mind joining up. I would never have four showers. And there's the issue of "too many guests for one shower". Then cut the guest list down. You don't need your cousin's best friend's sister at your baby shower. Have some tact and stop looking for people to buy you gifts.

I personally feel like she should have combined them into two showers, like they did for me. DH's community doesn't really like to leave their home town and his mother was disabled so we had one where he grew up. Then we had another in my hometown so that my family and friends didn't have to drive to the boonies and sit in the shitty rec hall they threw it in.

In fact, I'm having my second baby and if anyone offers to throw me a shower I'm going to decline because I think it's tasteless to have a shower for your second child.
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Kaylawv2
by Gold Member on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:41 AM
I had 3 showers for my first. One for my family/friends. One from my inlaws, and one from work. I didnt throw any of them. It shouldnt matter as long as its different people. Its the same as all those people going to the same shower.
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dancer
by Gold Member on Apr. 29, 2012 at 10:42 AM

Why so many showers?

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