I'm heartbroken for my daughter. Her father who has been in and out of her life, called her a dumb bitch this weekend.
She is devastated and refuses to accept his calls. She knows he has issues, but she cries and doesn't understand why.
She is smart, beautiful, funny, kind - she's graduating high school a year early and wants to become a dentist. I rarely have problems with her. I want to kill him.
What are his issues? What was the context (NOT JUSTIFYING OR EXCUSING)? This would make a huge difference for me as a mom as to what my next step would be. You hate to go all Kim Basinger-Alec Baldwin, but verbal and psychological abuse is serious and not to be tolerated in my book.
Quoting KME445:
What are his issues? What was the context (NOT JUSTIFYING OR EXCUSING)? This would make a huge difference for me as a mom as to what my next step would be. You hate to go all Kim Basinger-Alec Baldwin, but verbal and psychological abuse is serious and not to be tolerated in my book.
Her stepdad and I took her little brother and sister to Disneyland this weekend, my 16 year old stayed with my father 9he lives with us) - she works part time at a grocery store and was unable to get time off to come with us.
We told her she was allowed to go to a movie with her girlfriends and had a curfew of 12. I stayed in contact with her the whole evening, my dad waited up for her. She came home at 11:30 and returned a call from her father. He questioned her and did not believe her when she told him where she was. So, he yelled at her and screamed "dumb bitch!", she hung up and called me absolutely hysterical.
Back story;
He's always felt that the child support he's paid for her is ridiculous and has tried to convince her to live with him so he would not have to pay. He's a master manipulator and will do anything to gain her trust. He just recently contacted her 6 weeks ago after two years of not speaking to her.
We live in the same town, she spent the night at his house a few times, while she was there he gave her a ton of freedom and a curfew. Up until this point, I would not allow her to go out. Because of his actions, I had to rework my rules for her and giver her more freedom, now he feels that she is headed down the wrong path.
He has no clue who she is as a person.
She knows he has anger problems. She just doesn'tunderstand why she is stuck with a father like this.
As her mother, I feel terrible for choosing him - but I was just 15 when we conceived her, he was 19. He's disgusting.
Quoting Bknotnobody:
So she doesn't need him in her life. It's his fault. My father said shit like that to me. I haven't talked to him in 6 years or more.
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?
- Kaelaknowsitall
on Apr. 30, 2012 at 4:33 PM